Bye bye February ….
Dear Guillianna and Elijah-
Are you getting your Leprechaun traps set or planned out? Hard to believe it’s going to be spring soon and we still haven’t been able to speak with, or see you two, absolutely devastating and so traumatic to you both both. If you’ve been swayed to dislike or have been brainwashed into the idea that life was bad in the Mitten the saddest part of your new potential ‘dislike’ for your Nana and Poppy – well, that would be 180 degrees from where you two were the day you left ? To take on the mental anguish that would have to occur for such a drastic change is unimaginable and we are so sad if that is what has happened. Or if you are hiding your feelings and compensating for, bury the sorrow of missing us and your lives in he Mitten, all for acceptance … no matter how we try to imagine what has happened here , how you went from so much love for us to either never wanting to see or speak to us ? Or wondering why we were here for grandparents day or having no answers to so many questions …. It is all so sad and we continue wondering what you’ve been told, and what you have had to do each day to to be in ‘sync l’ with the idea that people you have always known loved and depended upon are simply disposable . We hope March is breakthrough month for conversation and resolution that allows you both to have something many children are usually born into. Having love and support of family, not matter how different people are – that support that knowledge is a gift . Usually it’s customary to believe in family , to enjoy having Grandparents . These things , in the life of a child are a very wonderful gift. At least in most peoples interpretation or perception people are not to be cut out of a life and discarded as worthless. To and to tear a child from the life they knew and loved – without having any rational, or truthful reason, is simply the hashest and most cruel thing for us to imagine you have had to contend with and navigate daily. When a child is fortunate to have extended family it’s truly special. We see that our own daughter has made decisions to leave behind her parents, her grandparents, her siblings, her neices and nephews. She has given us all reason to worry and wonder if she understands the depth of the sorrow created in the actions to isolate herself and her children from people who have loved and supported her and her family for her entire life with us . For all these years we have tried very diligently to show her dedication comittment and we have givien all we could possibly give to prove love for her and help her succeed in her decisions, the time afforded her to do all she has done for herself, the security of knowing you were both loved and cared for all those years , has now been manipulated into something evil and dishonest. Poppy and I have been removed and treated by our own child as though we did something criminal . That is reason for concern and sorrow beyond any words I could ever write. There may never be a way to show her it change what is within her.
One thing learned over these many years is that the emotional traumas of children impact significantly the future adults that they become. This website is designed simply to be a tool to help you as you grow and beginner to assimilate all that has transpired in your lives. As well as a gift, the words and thoughts of your grandparents, that you may one day to know. It is one of many facets that you will be able to reference and it is hope that the information you find when grown will prevent you from closing yourself off to trust. Help you in a way that was not afforded to small children who’s lives were also drastically changed when they experienced loss, or inability to have a voice, had no control of their own futures for they themselves were put into a system in Eastern European countries and their hearts broken can at young ages, creating huge emotional trauma that in some cases can be so very difficult to repair. The acceptance of your parents position to change how they feel about the role we played in their lives as parents, the hope that they will one day see how much we love, how hard we tried, and what we did for all the years in your lives and in your moms life, up to the day they left the Mitten with you…. is and always has been in their power. Life is about choices. In research it is documented, that the choice to abandon, has been hard wired into some people, because they were abandoned. The purpose of this love letter is to tell you, you the two of you have not ever been abandoned. Not by us, not by your friends, cousins, aunts, uncles, great grandparents. None of the people you love, who have shared your lives with ever chose this situation. Ironically, as life always proves, the decisions of others, always affects many people, and the children that Nana and Poppy have always dedicated ourselves to , were deeply affected by actions and events in others lives, that chain of events, carries through and our lives all spin in directions based on the actions of others as well as ourselves. The importance of our own decisions, our own choices, our own actions, is so very important because the influence and actions of others around us impacts even the best of intentions, the purest of hearts, and the deepest of dedication. The foundation you build your lives on must be rock solid. It needs integrity, courage and strength. To keep you grounded when blindsided, when uneexpected circumstances arise, when the rug is pulled from beneath you. Our love, our integrity and our dedication to our parents, children and grandchildren is true. It is real, it is solid, and will not be manipulated into any fabrication less than it is. Your parents love you deeply, so do we, so do all of the others you grew up with and trusted. The issues you have been made to carry now, are created by others, not yourselves. Poppy and I both hope you will always believe in love, in seeing the good, in giving, in kindness, in knowing youre both loved from here to the moon and back,
forever and for always,