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Nana April 29, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

We are thinking of you – missing you and wishing for you every happiness.

We hope you will one day understand how much love everyone in the Mitten has for you both !      The adventure you’re on is not one we have been allowed to physically share with you for about a year we have not seen your faces heard your voices and have been treated as though we have done something to harm you.    It’s unimaginable what you could be thinking or have been told and even more terrifying is the emotional torment your hearts must have been feeling.  To know how much you loved being with us and the years you spent , to know you cannot show those emotions now or have been conditioned to have hate or distrust …oh my, it is all of that- all of the above,  is the current  motivation for our love letters.   To make sure you’re aware that we will always love you – no one in the Mitten ever saw this coming , to ensure you  that you have wonderful childhood memories and that this entire situation is not your fault.   We want you to know there is no reason to feel sad, that as you grow there will always be someone  in this world who can help you fill in the blanks.   No matter how old the great grandparents get- no matter how old we get, there are aunts and uncles and cousins, there are, coaches, teachers, instructors,  parents of your friends and even your close special friends though young too and may have memories fade, but I know will there are so many who will always know what life truly was here in the Mitten, how loved you are and how you enjoyed the years with us!    No manipulations of what is real….  just so many others you could reach out to one day and help you both piece together the images of these pages, the documents preserved, the time capsule of nine and six years that have been  gutted or taken from you  and reconstructed over this past year to transform your mindset.   there are specialists to help you in coping with how this all was put upon your shoulders when you did nothing to warrant it.      To know the truth is important , we have learned from our own experiences that the lives of children who suffer huge emotional loss and change there is a potential for emotional life long issues of trust and attachment , relationship barriers.    The only thing we can do as grandparents with this experience in the lives of our own children , is  communicate to you both the value of your lives, to everyone that loves you.   To express that you’re memories of love fun and closeness, the trust,  are real they are valid and they had a place in your hearts – one day i hope you will find a way to see that is not a betrayal to the love you have for your mom and dad, to love people you were so connected to.   We hope you’ll understand That you two and all of us in the Mitten were part of a journey that we loved, that we did not end, and that  we begged to maintain .     We also want you to know that as you grow or have grown pending the age in which you actually read these letters , you will see that the fear, and pain of others pasts became your burden to carry.    we hope you’ll be able to forgive that , and grow into the kind of people  who change the pattern.    Always remember the importance of how to treat those who have loved you, treat people with respect and kindness – and have gratitude.   Jealousy, discontent, an inability to attach or lack of trust breeds unhappiness and irrational fear .      You will have the chance to heal and set an example of what love can do.     Love and appreciation can win in this unbelievably awful chain of events that has removed very special people in your lives.    So many who have loved and supported your journey and still do.

Remember you are both always loved to the moon and back,

forever and for always,

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

Forever ❤️ Love

Nana April 25, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

It was so sad that your parents didn’t make the trip in for great Grandma’s 90th birthday.  They did not call, did not text, did not RSVP, did not send a card.   This has been the same pattern for every holiday, every birthday, every single day.   The reality is you will not get the opportunity to share in your family, at any level, because determinations they make on your behalf.   As parents are priveleged to do, to protect their children, it seems they have themselves make clear that you will not love, you will not see, you will not have any family that they do not choose for you.   Yet without cause.   No justification, no rationale, no one deserved any of this, yet it seems that regardless of whether or not you deseved this, whether it was right or wrong to deny you the family love, the family connection, or if it made you happy, whether or not ‘family matters’, or if  having all of us to share in your lives had any value, the fact remains, if they don’t ever want to acknowledge the value of us as parents and mom’s grandparents, you certainly will not have that gift in your lives either.    None of the Michigan family is deserving of such unkindness, such lack of emotion, and disconnect.   None of them.  But, the idea that you have parents who believe as they do,  you now too, must”cut people out of your life like a kindergartener cuts out paper snowflakes”.   You would have loved dancing to Mr.Josh and seeing all your cousins.    Being with all the family you love so much or once loved so much.     It’s hard for us to know what has been said to you both, or how you have had to alter the feelings inside to win the approval and support you deserve from parents.  We can’t imagine what you would or could be thinking,  where everyone  disappeared to, why you don’t hear from any one – what could you possibly be told to imagine not seeing speaking or being able to have a relationship with those you loved for nine and six years.      It is especially sad for the great grandparents who are far more adeptat un derstanding, and wise to know the importance of close families, the value of human life, and the ability to attatch, love and respect others, they believe in families and and support of each other.  They have always seen to making sure all their children and grandchildren were a priority in their lives.   And this entire matter, is beyond difficult for them-    to know how truly hurtful it has been to everyone. has not mattered to those who cut people out of their lives and are proud of it, as if it were a badge of honor, and a character building trait to be proud of !  In life there are all kinds of people, and all kinds of families, all kinds of beliefs, and all kinds of philosophical ideals.    The idea that you have people in this world who love you, who have always loved you, who wish you to know that your existance is more than words can express.   To help you dream, to help you grow, to help you learn, to help teach you kindness, love, gratitude.    These will always be the values and principles Poppy and Nana were raised to believe in, and they are the values we will always have.   Not everyone can agree upon what is important in life, but they can have respect for all those around them, and look to see what is the good, find the gratitude and build lives that respect those who have been significant in their lives.    We hope you will always have love, kindness, gratitude for your mom and dad.   Learn from all things in your life,  the good, and the things that have been painful.   This for us, for all of us in the Mitten has been painful beyond anything we could ever write.   We will always hope for a better tomorrow.

Memories flood in every day- and I have made pages on this site that are private and cannot be opened by the public.    You will one day be able to sift through all of the pages and piece together the broken hearts that are yours now,  by no choice of your own.

The lovely memories and pieces of history the facts and the truths will continue to be preserved and will unlock your past when your older and we will hope that some time soon your mom will realize that her parents are not disposable- are not dispensable – so worthless that one can simply  to toss aside and be treated  worse than if they were nothing  more than criminals .    For in these kind of examples, in those actions,  she is also  teaching you both how to treat those who provide shelter and raise you, those who work hard and try their very best to ensure safety and love , she is teaching you how you should trust,  honor,   respect and love, and is doing so  in her own actions by her own example.    Childhood trauma is as real for you now as it was for her.   Displaced, taken from all you knew,  and now are never allowed to see or speak to , to have been removed from anyone  and every one you loved in the Mitten.   Possibly even being told we are bad, or did something bad, possibly needing to feel that if you did say and feel as if being in the Mitten was bad , that somehow you’ll be loved more, or please the people all children look to please.     To want to feel safe and secure and loved is your right and your fear of losing that by telling anyone you wish to have us in your lives is likely very real.    We understand – we want you to feel love , joy, be happy in all your school events and extracurricular things.  We want you to know we are cheering you on.   In sports or dance or with your academics.     We will always be your greatest cheerleaders as is everyone in your family.   All wishing good-  all hoping for resolve-  all wanting you to feel connected, loved and that you CAN trust.  ITS TRULY SAD,  To prove to you we are not able to be trusted , to make you feel why didn’t we come see you, why didn’t we fight to keep contact , to make you feel as though this was by our choice or our doing … that may be what you’re facing.     This love letter is to say … for a fact, we WANT TO SEE YOU, we will always love you , we want you happy, we want you grow and live happy, we want you to have two loving parents and also to be allowed to have interaction with all the family that has always loved you !   No one , no distortions  ,  no contortion of fact, or mind game will ever change the reality of the documents, the love letters, both public and personal …. nothing !

We love you both from here to the moon and back –

forever and for always,

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

The truth is ….

Nana April 16, 2019 1Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah-

The truth is , you’re innocent little lives deserve so much more than where you’ve been placed.   To love us is to defy, hurt and  be maligned with you’re mom and dad .  How sad is that ?

The truth is – based upon choices that were not your own, you may not ever remember all the wonderful memories the  two of you had in the Mitten, with us, with family.  The reality is that we have seen in these past moths the distortion and misconceptions that will become your future opinions and will prevent you from ever having the continuity and stability you one had, you will hopefully have new memories and love with stability and  even if we the Mitten family and memories , even if all are forgotten –  or turned into evil for you to build your lives upon these pages and all the truths and facts will be yours to rest assured and know none of it was you doing anything wrong,  no one left your lives by choice, no one stopped caring , loving and hoping …. we all are at a loss for any sign of common courtesy, decency or understanding  from your parents.   The prideful morality, mantra and spoken promise that “I cut people out of my life-like a kindergartener cuts out paper snowflakes” is not something anyone I have ever known would be proud to raise children upon and is an unknown and unfamiliar territory for Poppy and Nana.   Some people are Republican , some Democrats and others Independent, Green  or no politely party at all.  Some people are one religion or another, some people have children, some do not , the world is full of so many different opinions and beliefs.   People in the USA are free to make all kinds of choices .    In this scenario you two as small kids have been caught between two very different perspectives and in our heart and soul we know when you left here –  the feeling of love and sorrow for leaving the desire to talk to us and FaceTime “all the time” was promised – then with the snap of a finger we were demonized vilified and all contact was removed .

As time  has continued to pass it is more and more clear the level hatred in the hearts of others , the inability to attach or believe in having a Nana and Poppy, or that we are worthy of  having any value to your lives, these ideas these objectives will become your very own sediment over time.  The feelings of discourse and the  devaluation for family will become your own  mantra and this lack of desire to have extended family cousins aunts uncles great grandparents or grandparents from the Mitten  , will be poured into you both, and as a result of it, it is entirely possible  you may carry forever the broken hearts and emotional traumas of being taken from everything you loved and knew as family If so –  you will have been forced to alter your perception of what was true and real to the untruthful, unkind perception that we are somehow bad, or not worth the civility of a photo , a call, a simple gesture of kindness.

The truth is YOUR CHILDHOOD FOR NINE AND SIX YEARS , ACTIVE IN OUR LIVES WAS INCREDIBLE AND FUN, HAPPY AND  YOU WERE NOT EVER MISTREATED, you only knew love and fun … you were our priority.     There was nothing that we could have done more of to ensure your good health, safety , education, and more.    What is salsa sad is the anguish you will endure forever because of something not in your power to change is devastating for us .  That our own daughter did not and cannot see her parents for whom they are.    That she will have  taken so many of her childhood issues and spread the toxic jealousy and anger to her children.  Or lied to them about us, to make them detach .    There is no way for us to stop this sorrowful  journey that has begun of no fault of your own and no choice of your own.      All we can do write and tell you of our love and the story of our lives – that brought your mom to us , our family together and the documents that support all we say and our history as parents and grandparents .

Many of our love letters are now hidden and cannot be seen publicly.    You two will be able to see them in their entirety.    They will unveil themselves when of age.    But do not doubt for a single day that memories wonderful happy and beautiful memories  flood to  both Poppy and I daily.   Loving wonderful happy memories.    You may be stripped of them by time and altered facts.  You may be forever impacted by this turn of events and restricted access, But as you grow as you enter adulthood you will be able to know you were loved , are loved, will always be loved but ya, by everyone here in the Mitten and by mom and dad.    The truth is –  the fact is – we love you both to the moon and back,

forever and for always ,

The truth is , we are grateful for the opportunity to have been the rock solid foundation full of love, fun, hugs, kindness, laughter, and good in your lives , to have been the two people who despite what anyone may have told you it the past year, over the coming years  , we were your moms parents , we did all that two parents could do to help their children and grandchildren and we did it to the very best of our ability .  We never would say we don’t want to see you , we never would do or say anything  that would qualify for how we’ve been treated.   A stranger in the street is treated with more respect common courtesy than we Have been in this past year and how you two  are being treated in all of this by swaying you to alter all you ever knew from us , into fabrications that are so horrific that we are now told  you no longer wish to see, talk to , or know the very people you loved so deeply.   How could this happen to anyone you ever knew in the Mitten?  I mean  a felon , a criminal would be Withheld from visits and communication in this way.   But us?    The message that has been sent to you is so sad and concerning.    Now as adults you will have to decipher your broken hearts and the experience you’ve been thrust into … with the result equally traumatic.   To know people you love and trusted  were removed from your life by people you love and trust and will one day learn did so for personal reasons that were based upon lie or misrepresentation is more heart ache for you –   Loss  is  something that we each are experiencing at different developmental levels /ages and impacts each of us differently.     This journal all th hidden letters and documents as well as the public ones will hopefully protect, educate  and serve you as you navigate the emotional minefield that has been laid before your feet.

The truth is – you will always  be  our amazing,  intelligent,  hard working, good, sweet , kind and dedicated ardent love,  examples .      Our love will not change and will not be altered by the words that have been sent , the trail of documents to show you how this has been created to look as though we ever deserved this that you two ever deserved this to happen and you have been led to believe that banishing people is in your best interest is above all things that have happened the most sorrowful that it is brought to your feet at the hands of your mom and her emotions.

The truth is You are loved by your parents and loved by Nana and Poppy and all those in the Mitten and elsewhere that  you’ve been withdrawn from .

The price to pay will be yours sadly and there is nothing any of us can do to prevent the anguish, the loss, the heart ache.

The truth is you may not likely see great grandparents before they pass with great Granada Sally turning 90 tomorrow, great Grandma Sharyn having had her birthday pass too with out even so much as a card of text or call from her grand child     Someone who looked out for you mom, helped your mom, protected her, gave of herself and always supported your mom.     Banished .   The conscious choices have been made on your behalf and are said to be in your best interest.   Time will tell in about 8 years at least one of you will be 18.  At that time  Guillianna will have had nine years living with us in your lives and 9 years living a new adventure without us.   The truth is – you will forget your early years    First steps first words, first foods firsts of every kind all documented for you.  All there for you to see if the story you may be led to believe matches with your memories and the facts you will uncover in the journals of our lives.

The truth is that Elijah will have had six years he will likely forget about and these page will show him who his Poppy and Nana were – the hope is that you will then take the truth and live healthy happy lives shared with those you want to share it with!

The truth is – you will grow and have your own dreams and pursue your own goals and make decisions for your own children some day and we can hope you will feel the joy, the completion of voids  and the benefit of these memories we have preserved for you

to the moon and back,

forever and for always –

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️ NANA AND POPPY ❤️?