Time is a gift …
Nana
Dear Guillianna and Elijah –
Our time with you was a gift A very special gift of time with two very loving and special kids who we do good and so happy – you need to know that we love you both and that we feel you to be a gift in our lives. We think of you with love and warmth, happiness and compassion for the dilemma you’ve been channeled into – a situation that was not in your control – that was never intended to be full of sorrow or the dysfunction that has evolved, a purely innocent and loving set of children subjected to an emotional pull no child should ever face . our time with you a gift to us and all the family in the Mitten – to all your Aunts and Uncles to all your cousins, to all of the teachers and friends over 9 and 6 years – and to this day all of us send love and hope for your continued smiles and continued happiness. The gift of family – of connection – the gift of love is and will always be yours to keep regardless of distance, regardless of missed moments in your lives, regardless of lives that are born since you left and lives that may end before your of age or even if when if age you still are forbidden to see or have family in your life…. these gifts of laughter you shared with us, those gifts of smiles and games, singing and playing dancing and snuggles, first steps, birthdays, holidays and flagging … they are treasured gifts and nothing will change our love for the gift of sharing in your lives. People can alter environment they can change location , they can speak i’ll will , or contort truths into lies, they can make a divide and trample upon hopes and dreams or the importance of family …. but in the end the truth is the truth and the facts are the facts. we love you both – our time such a gift – our dreams for you will always be our dreams for you – no one can take 94 change that either. no matter where the journey takes you in this world, you are the Beanie and BoBo , the sunshine of all things good and the strong hero’s who will one day stop the cycle . the two people who will hopefully know how to treat others, and do it with the kind of love that your Poppy and Nana have always seen you to have.
Much of what we write is now private pages- and designed to prevent you both any additional stress in a world that has plenty of it already . There is not a day the passes when we are not struggling with what has happened in all of our lives and to you both in the process . The amount of love you have always had always shown us and all of the Mitten state family was just all encompassing and it was real and genuine. Life with all your friends, cousins, Aunts and Uncles , great grandparents and us was fun and full of laughter and good. we can only hope it has not been tarnished by untruths, or distortion of reality but since all we have been able to see is exactly that we are hoping for a character that has not been shown to us in past actions. Our daughter saw a need to force a bond between the two of you that was missing . Her need to spend the last 7 years before Guillianna turning 18 alienating you both from the lives you’d always known has become more important than anything to her. The affects of this action will be life long for everyone. The heartbreak and loss or void created will likely never be repaired. However as her parents we spend so much time hopeful she will recognize her father her mother and her family here in the Mitten deserved at the very least common decency. It is said when a small child has an emotional fracture – the development beyond that fracture in an area such as attachment is difficult to heal . Historically there is much sorrow and displacement for her and that has translated to repeated loss and heartbreak for you and all who love not only you two but her as well. She has forgotten her Grandma Sharyn who stood by her side and loved her with the purest heart and intent. The teachers and the family the friends the siblings the parents that she could love and value – are by her actions worthless and meaningless. They have been disposable and the inability to attach to feel comfort, to be the aunt the sister the daughter the grandchild she is – have been clouded and removed from her life without remorse, without any evidence of gratitude for a life she has been gifted. There is no doubt that we all earn or pave a way for ourselves in this life but we do not do it alone – we all have others who have helped us – who have taught us, who have shared pieces or chapters of their lives with us to maddie’s is the best possible opportunities. What has been taken from you is a plethora of family and friends. So many people who have loved you, helped your parents in any way they possibly could, and did so with the purest intent- people who cared for you both more than any words i could ever write- that a year and a half after your abrupt removal from your foundation – still are missing and thinking of you ! The love and kindness- the gifts of love that you were both always surrounded in – have been hidden beneath either lies about your Mitten family, or it has been tucked away- and your lives redirected enforcing to you that it is better to cut people out of your lives than to learn to have relationships and have family that is always supporting you. Maybe after a year and a half you have been able to adjust and by yourselves had the necessity to conform to this new life for acceptance. Either way the innocent children pay the price and we will always hope your love for family stays strong. The values upon relationships and people who you’ve always known to be foundational people in your life will hopefully remain intact. In order to live with parents who detach earn the approval all children want from their parents you shave now been forced to detach. Yet no amount of time. nothing in this world will ever change truth – nothing will change the love we have for you both and for our daughter who is lost in a state we cannot heal for her. No matter where your journey leads you , no matter what trials and tribulations you face, despite all success and any potential pit falls – know this you have a huge amount of love, an truly incredible foundation of love, a family who misses you both and who wishes for you both happiness always-
You must always have integrity in this world – know that how you treat people is the most important gift in life. A gift you can give and in turn receive. The gift of a safe home, the gift of parents who love and provide for you, the opportunity to learn and grow to live life and pursue dreams…. and how you treat those people your life path crosses …. how you feel when you give the respect that is due to all human beings…. that is the best gift of all. Your Poppy and I want love and happiness for you both and to have your family unit experience joy and happiness beyond measure. The fractures you’ve been subjected to are unthinkable and hold the potential for emotions that can be helped by truly knowing, truly believing in the integrity the love the true sense of how everyone only ever loved you and helped your parents – something the pages of this site, the proof within these letters and photos over the past decade, and all the private letters preserved for you two will one day provide.
We love you Guillianna and Eli-
to the moon and back-
forever and for always-
XOXOXOXOXOXO
❤️❤️Nana and Poppy?❤️