Another birthday is coming ….

Nana September 17, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

This is love … no amount of time, no distance no matter how far –  will ever change the depth of the love we have for you both.   In life people have the ability to try to alter lives of others –  They will say what they will, do what they can, and often try to guide others – yet eventually truth and one’s own dreams or memories lead them to find truth and live life on the terms that is theirs and theirs alone.   It’s a fact of history – children will be educated and they’ve will grow and become individuals who have the free thinking ability to assimilate and develop their own  values, beliefs and principles- their own dreams.   When that day arrives it is our hope you will take all of your memories and the truth – that you’ll find in your souls – that there will always be love, happiness and joy!   The reality is that  lives and cannot ever be contorted or manipulated in anyway … not ever.    You have the poster to be mentally strong and prepared. To use all the tools we know you to possess and feel our love.    We love you kids, we want your happiness on birthdays and every day ….   missing you beyond words you are our sunshine ….

Love you both to the moon and back    forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️nana and Poppy?❤️

Time is a gift …

Nana June 12, 2019 0Comments

 

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

Our time with you was a gift     A very special gift of time with two very loving and special kids who we do good and so happy – you need to know that we love you both and that we feel you to be a gift in our lives. We think of you with love and warmth, happiness and compassion for the dilemma you’ve been channeled into – a situation that was not in your control – that was never intended to be full of sorrow or the dysfunction that has evolved, a purely innocent and loving set of children subjected to an emotional pull no child should ever face .    our time with you a gift to us and all the family in the Mitten – to all your Aunts and Uncles to all your cousins, to all of the teachers and friends over 9 and 6 years – and to this day all of us send love and hope for your continued smiles and continued happiness.    The gift of family – of connection – the gift of love is and will always be yours to keep regardless of distance, regardless of missed moments in your lives, regardless of lives that are born since you left and lives that may end before your of age or even if when if age you still are forbidden to see or have family in your life…. these gifts of laughter you shared with us, those gifts of smiles and games, singing and playing dancing and snuggles, first steps, birthdays, holidays and flagging … they are treasured gifts and nothing will change our love for the gift of sharing in your lives.      People can alter environment they can change location , they can speak i’ll will , or contort truths into lies, they can make a divide and trample upon hopes and dreams or the importance of family …. but in the end the truth is the truth and the facts are the facts.   we love you both – our time such a gift – our dreams for you will always be our dreams for you – no one can take  94 change that either.   no matter where the journey takes you in this world, you are the Beanie and BoBo , the sunshine of all things good and the strong hero’s who will one day stop the cycle .    the two people who  will hopefully know how to treat others, and do it with the kind of love that your Poppy and Nana   have always seen you to have.

Much of what we write is now private pages-  and designed to prevent you both  any additional stress in a world that has plenty of it already .    There is not a day the passes when we are not struggling with what has happened in all of our lives and  to you both in the process .   The amount of love you have always had always shown us and all of the Mitten state family was just all encompassing and it was real and genuine.    Life with all your friends, cousins,  Aunts and Uncles , great grandparents and us was fun and full of laughter and good.   we can only hope it has not been tarnished by untruths, or distortion of reality but since all we have been able to see is exactly that we are hoping for a character that has not been shown to us in past actions.    Our daughter saw a need to force a bond between the two of you that was missing .     Her need to spend the last 7 years before Guillianna  turning 18 alienating you both from the lives you’d always known has become more important than anything to her.     The affects of this action will be life long for everyone.    The heartbreak and loss or void  created will likely never be repaired.     However as her parents we spend so much time hopeful she will recognize her father her mother and her family here in the Mitten deserved at the very least common decency.    It is said when a small child has an emotional fracture – the development beyond that fracture in an area such as attachment is difficult to heal .    Historically  there is much sorrow and displacement for her and that has translated to repeated loss and heartbreak for you and all who love not only you two but her as well.    She has forgotten her Grandma Sharyn who stood by her side and loved her with  the purest heart and intent.    The teachers and the family the friends the siblings the parents that she could love and value – are by her actions  worthless and meaningless.  They have been disposable and the inability to attach to feel comfort, to be the aunt the sister the daughter the grandchild she is – have been clouded and removed from her life without remorse, without any evidence of gratitude for a life she has been gifted.   There is no doubt that we all earn or pave a way for ourselves in this life but we do not do it alone –   we all have others who have helped us – who have taught us, who have shared pieces or chapters of their lives with us to maddie’s is the best possible opportunities.     What has been taken from you is a plethora of family and friends.    So many people who have loved you, helped your parents in any way they possibly could, and did so with the purest intent- people who cared for you both more than any words i could ever write- that a year and a half after your abrupt removal from your foundation – still are missing and thinking of you !    The love and kindness- the gifts of love that you were both always surrounded in – have been  hidden beneath either lies about your Mitten family, or it has been tucked away- and your lives redirected enforcing to you that it is better to cut people out of your lives than to learn to have relationships and have family that is always supporting you.   Maybe after a year and a half you have been able to adjust and  by yourselves  had the necessity to conform to this new life  for acceptance.   Either way the innocent children pay the price and we will always hope your love for family stays strong.    The values upon relationships and people who you’ve always known to be foundational people in your life will hopefully  remain intact.   In order to live with parents who detach earn the approval all children want from their parents you shave now been forced to detach.    Yet no amount of time. nothing in this world will ever change truth – nothing will change the love we have for you both and for our daughter who is lost in a state we cannot heal for her.     No matter where your journey leads you , no matter what trials and tribulations you face, despite all success and any potential pit falls – know this you have a huge amount of love, an truly incredible foundation of love, a family who misses you both and who wishes for you both happiness always-

You must always have integrity in this world – know that how you treat people is the most important gift in life.   A gift you can give and in turn receive.   The gift of a safe home, the gift of parents who love and provide for you, the opportunity to learn and grow to live life and pursue dreams…. and how you treat those people your life path crosses …. how you feel when you give the respect that is due to all human beings…. that is the best gift of all.     Your Poppy and I want love and happiness for you  both and to have your family unit experience joy and happiness beyond measure.   The fractures you’ve been subjected to are unthinkable and hold the potential for emotions that can be helped by truly knowing, truly believing in the integrity the love the true sense of how everyone only ever loved you and helped your parents  – something the pages of this site, the proof within these letters and photos  over the past decade,   and all the private letters preserved for you two will one day provide.

We love you Guillianna and Eli-

to the moon and back-

forever and for always-

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️❤️Nana and Poppy?❤️

❤️❤️❤️

Nana April 29, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

We are thinking of you – missing you and wishing for you every happiness.

We hope you will one day understand how much love everyone in the Mitten has for you both !      The adventure you’re on is not one we have been allowed to physically share with you for about a year we have not seen your faces heard your voices and have been treated as though we have done something to harm you.    It’s unimaginable what you could be thinking or have been told and even more terrifying is the emotional torment your hearts must have been feeling.  To know how much you loved being with us and the years you spent , to know you cannot show those emotions now or have been conditioned to have hate or distrust …oh my, it is all of that- all of the above,  is the current  motivation for our love letters.   To make sure you’re aware that we will always love you – no one in the Mitten ever saw this coming , to ensure you  that you have wonderful childhood memories and that this entire situation is not your fault.   We want you to know there is no reason to feel sad, that as you grow there will always be someone  in this world who can help you fill in the blanks.   No matter how old the great grandparents get- no matter how old we get, there are aunts and uncles and cousins, there are, coaches, teachers, instructors,  parents of your friends and even your close special friends though young too and may have memories fade, but I know will there are so many who will always know what life truly was here in the Mitten, how loved you are and how you enjoyed the years with us!    No manipulations of what is real….  just so many others you could reach out to one day and help you both piece together the images of these pages, the documents preserved, the time capsule of nine and six years that have been  gutted or taken from you  and reconstructed over this past year to transform your mindset.   there are specialists to help you in coping with how this all was put upon your shoulders when you did nothing to warrant it.      To know the truth is important , we have learned from our own experiences that the lives of children who suffer huge emotional loss and change there is a potential for emotional life long issues of trust and attachment , relationship barriers.    The only thing we can do as grandparents with this experience in the lives of our own children , is  communicate to you both the value of your lives, to everyone that loves you.   To express that you’re memories of love fun and closeness, the trust,  are real they are valid and they had a place in your hearts – one day i hope you will find a way to see that is not a betrayal to the love you have for your mom and dad, to love people you were so connected to.   We hope you’ll understand That you two and all of us in the Mitten were part of a journey that we loved, that we did not end, and that  we begged to maintain .     We also want you to know that as you grow or have grown pending the age in which you actually read these letters , you will see that the fear, and pain of others pasts became your burden to carry.    we hope you’ll be able to forgive that , and grow into the kind of people  who change the pattern.    Always remember the importance of how to treat those who have loved you, treat people with respect and kindness – and have gratitude.   Jealousy, discontent, an inability to attach or lack of trust breeds unhappiness and irrational fear .      You will have the chance to heal and set an example of what love can do.     Love and appreciation can win in this unbelievably awful chain of events that has removed very special people in your lives.    So many who have loved and supported your journey and still do.

Remember you are both always loved to the moon and back,

forever and for always,

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

Forever ❤️ Love

Nana April 25, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

It was so sad that your parents didn’t make the trip in for great Grandma’s 90th birthday.  They did not call, did not text, did not RSVP, did not send a card.   This has been the same pattern for every holiday, every birthday, every single day.   The reality is you will not get the opportunity to share in your family, at any level, because determinations they make on your behalf.   As parents are priveleged to do, to protect their children, it seems they have themselves make clear that you will not love, you will not see, you will not have any family that they do not choose for you.   Yet without cause.   No justification, no rationale, no one deserved any of this, yet it seems that regardless of whether or not you deseved this, whether it was right or wrong to deny you the family love, the family connection, or if it made you happy, whether or not ‘family matters’, or if  having all of us to share in your lives had any value, the fact remains, if they don’t ever want to acknowledge the value of us as parents and mom’s grandparents, you certainly will not have that gift in your lives either.    None of the Michigan family is deserving of such unkindness, such lack of emotion, and disconnect.   None of them.  But, the idea that you have parents who believe as they do,  you now too, must”cut people out of your life like a kindergartener cuts out paper snowflakes”.   You would have loved dancing to Mr.Josh and seeing all your cousins.    Being with all the family you love so much or once loved so much.     It’s hard for us to know what has been said to you both, or how you have had to alter the feelings inside to win the approval and support you deserve from parents.  We can’t imagine what you would or could be thinking,  where everyone  disappeared to, why you don’t hear from any one – what could you possibly be told to imagine not seeing speaking or being able to have a relationship with those you loved for nine and six years.      It is especially sad for the great grandparents who are far more adeptat un derstanding, and wise to know the importance of close families, the value of human life, and the ability to attatch, love and respect others, they believe in families and and support of each other.  They have always seen to making sure all their children and grandchildren were a priority in their lives.   And this entire matter, is beyond difficult for them-    to know how truly hurtful it has been to everyone. has not mattered to those who cut people out of their lives and are proud of it, as if it were a badge of honor, and a character building trait to be proud of !  In life there are all kinds of people, and all kinds of families, all kinds of beliefs, and all kinds of philosophical ideals.    The idea that you have people in this world who love you, who have always loved you, who wish you to know that your existance is more than words can express.   To help you dream, to help you grow, to help you learn, to help teach you kindness, love, gratitude.    These will always be the values and principles Poppy and Nana were raised to believe in, and they are the values we will always have.   Not everyone can agree upon what is important in life, but they can have respect for all those around them, and look to see what is the good, find the gratitude and build lives that respect those who have been significant in their lives.    We hope you will always have love, kindness, gratitude for your mom and dad.   Learn from all things in your life,  the good, and the things that have been painful.   This for us, for all of us in the Mitten has been painful beyond anything we could ever write.   We will always hope for a better tomorrow.

Memories flood in every day- and I have made pages on this site that are private and cannot be opened by the public.    You will one day be able to sift through all of the pages and piece together the broken hearts that are yours now,  by no choice of your own.

The lovely memories and pieces of history the facts and the truths will continue to be preserved and will unlock your past when your older and we will hope that some time soon your mom will realize that her parents are not disposable- are not dispensable – so worthless that one can simply  to toss aside and be treated  worse than if they were nothing  more than criminals .    For in these kind of examples, in those actions,  she is also  teaching you both how to treat those who provide shelter and raise you, those who work hard and try their very best to ensure safety and love , she is teaching you how you should trust,  honor,   respect and love, and is doing so  in her own actions by her own example.    Childhood trauma is as real for you now as it was for her.   Displaced, taken from all you knew,  and now are never allowed to see or speak to , to have been removed from anyone  and every one you loved in the Mitten.   Possibly even being told we are bad, or did something bad, possibly needing to feel that if you did say and feel as if being in the Mitten was bad , that somehow you’ll be loved more, or please the people all children look to please.     To want to feel safe and secure and loved is your right and your fear of losing that by telling anyone you wish to have us in your lives is likely very real.    We understand – we want you to feel love , joy, be happy in all your school events and extracurricular things.  We want you to know we are cheering you on.   In sports or dance or with your academics.     We will always be your greatest cheerleaders as is everyone in your family.   All wishing good-  all hoping for resolve-  all wanting you to feel connected, loved and that you CAN trust.  ITS TRULY SAD,  To prove to you we are not able to be trusted , to make you feel why didn’t we come see you, why didn’t we fight to keep contact , to make you feel as though this was by our choice or our doing … that may be what you’re facing.     This love letter is to say … for a fact, we WANT TO SEE YOU, we will always love you , we want you happy, we want you grow and live happy, we want you to have two loving parents and also to be allowed to have interaction with all the family that has always loved you !   No one , no distortions  ,  no contortion of fact, or mind game will ever change the reality of the documents, the love letters, both public and personal …. nothing !

We love you both from here to the moon and back –

forever and for always,

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?