Waiting for an invite?

Nana February 22, 2019 0Comments

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   Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

When Poppy asked to come visit, we want to very much to see you two,  he left it with your mom to let us know when you have any time and he would make a plan to visit all they need do was say when it was convenient for them.    We hope and wait – thinking the time spent together since leaving the Mitten would result in eventual understanding and seeing of truth- that this enlightened version of what truly was, would change the situation.    And please know as always has been the case,  The invitation to visit the Mitten is always open –

Never give up hope – and always know our dreams are to see you again, we cannot wait to hear about your new adventures, and all that you are learning !   We imagine that as the school year is coming to its last months you’re bigger and looking forward spring break and to summer vacation.    We have every hope you’ll spend it doing all kinds of fun  things !  Our hearts wish you to be happy, grow happy healthy and always know all of the people you’ve loved in the Mitten think of you and always will keep open their hearts –  send love hugs and wishes for bright tomorrow’s !

Please always  know that we miss and love you to the moon and back –

forever and for always –

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

For 9 & 6 years they lived with also loved Poppy

Nana February 21, 2019 0Comments

 Dear Guillianna and Elijah-

Please remember this last photo – it’s the night we went to dinner.   We took you both and mom to the Royal Park, and it is the last time you saw us .     You were told you’d be back to the Mitten in a few weeks.    You’re belongings were all left behind.   To some they were worthless.   All new belongings were purchased  and  anything you were attached to or loved ( less one small box of things) were left behind.    A basement full of toys and all your clothes and favorite “nana loves me” jammies.      To detach you.  And present you with all new lovely things and let you reconnect in your new environment.    To  help you learn “how to cut people out of your lives like a kindergartener cute out paper snowflakes”. I am so sorry you have missed out on time with this man .  He is pure good , pure in heart and in action.    And he has only ever loved you both.    We both love you to the moon and back – we will not ever be able to understand why , nor can we change what is – yet no matter what obstacles you may ever face, no matter what the challenges are or the despite any sorrow we wish you to know that people you meet and people you have loved in the Mitten still love you    Will always wish for you to be courageous and work so very hard to create the best and happiest lives you can     That Nana and Poppy are exactly who you remember us to be in these photos in your hearts and that in all you do in this life always be kind, be good and know that when something happens – that was not in your power, not your doing , that you feel torn or lost – search deep    Find the laughter the joy the fun and the happiness we always shared and pass it to others around you.  Every time you share a tradition you learned with Nana and Poppy , remember something that makes you smile ,  find a way to take that memory or that moment of joy and spread it   – children that grow into adults often have people in their lives that influence them and guide them.     People who impact them so much so – they are able to feel them near when they think of them.     Poppy is pure good.     When you picture yourselves dancing with your sword and grass skirt the Moana production the smile in your hearts can and should lift you.  Your Nana and Poppy’s love may seem nothing but a memory but it is everywhere. It’s been an active almost daily part of your entire lives until this past year- no one can take our love  from you.   It’s true you will think we have left –    But no one left either of you.     We simple did all we could in the absence of your mom and dad, and since they have alternate course in mind for now we will hope you will see everyone soon .   We love you to the moon and back –

forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

Every day is the same wish –

Nana February 20, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah-

This says it all.    We do love you – so much and hope you are having a wonderful week. Every day we hope you will be strong and never forget all the good memories you’ve always had even if you’re being conditioned to do so –    The saddest  part about the position that has been taken by mom and dad to date – is what it or this does has done and will do – to you both.   Being that they cannot see what loss  of people and trust in those they loved did to them , and how they are affected by the childhood experience .     All that is visible to them currently gis that they t they don’t think it matters now.     That inability to see clearly the emotional hardship the past  created – the lack of understanding could have a  very negative effect on so many others.     They have nieces and nephews.  They have family in the Mitten and they have abandoned all of it.    Under a false pretense.     Time is something we never can get back.   And the lesson may never be learned Or it may  take so long to learn that valuable days and weeks months and years will be lost .   Please know we did nothing to deserve the events that have transpired.    These events the responsibility for the alienation you’ve been subjected to is not on actions of your grandparents but rather are the result the circumstances that developed as you mom was a child –

The broken trust the loss of life she loved and the inability to control anything seemingly has left her incapable of showing us her parents love, trusting us  and led to fabricating so many inferences that are not relevant to your lives with us or your experiences, rather how she feels or her own emotions.    The resolve is not on you two .    The burden is however yours and that is so sad . The lack of regard  for her parents for her siblings, her own neices and nephews  and the life you lived here the value of the people in your life here is something she cannot relate to or she would not have done this.     I apologize for not being present, that we are not enough to fix the broken feelings inside some of our children .   Love was not enough to fix all the issues or burdens they were left to manage.     This series of letters will hopefully help prevent you from feeling as though you are bad, maybe help you to not be angry ,  help you to see that all of the adults involved love you deeply and to lock in  and immortalize important and valuable wonderful memories  – to allow you to one day know and feel that they are special and good and in no way were either of you ever unhappy during your lives here in the Mitten!

We love you to the moon and back Forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Pippy❤️?

We love and miss you ?

Nana February 19, 2019 0Comments

 Dear Beanie & BoBo- aka Guillianna and Elijah -?❤️

So much time has passed by and we find ourselves thinking about all the good times we spent.    Hoping that you are happy and having many more wonderful adventures.    I am sorry that mom has chosen to abandon her family.   She has had a great deal of pressure to support all that transpired since they returned from Korea and through the years – we hope that one day she will see what exactly parenting truly involves, and that she  finds  her dad, your grandfather and myself are worthy of her acceptance and then shows that she values us as important individuals in both of your lives.   He always was in your years with us and in her childhood, and still  is a wonderful person.    Soon great Grandma is to have her 90th birthday.      She wanted to have a birthday party and we have invited all of our children and their children to attend.     If mom and dad didn’t wish to attend,  it is our hope they would be able to see that the two of you should have that opportunity.  Where there is a will there is a way …  they may be able to put the feelings of their children and a 90 year old ,Poppy’’s parents and all the cousins and siblings before their own dislikes, at least  we can hope.

We are thinking of you today and always and love you’ve to the moon and back,

forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?