Love forever ❤️?

Nana March 13, 2019 0Comments

 Dear Guillianna and Elijah-

With each day that passes we hope you will one day know – we are so very sorry that you’ve not been given the opportunity to see us, or the rest of your family in the Mitten.   It is truly so sad that you have been denied something like family,  those you have always loved or possibly have been swayed to no longer care for anymore –  you’ve been not been given the opportunity to share in the lives of people you loved so much for all of your lives, not your Aunts and Uncles, cousins that you grew up around for your entire lives, not your great grandparents and your Nana and Poppy, the friends who have written you and tried to be pen pals or FaceTime friends  –   No matter what you have been told, or what  it may seem… we are all still loving you both, proud of you both, wishing happiness for you both and imagining and hoping  a wonderful adventure is before you.    That you’ll heal from the trauma of all this and that all of us can one day understand love doesn’t just slip away,  and that the issues that caused all of this sorrow, are not your fault, they are not yours to carry, and we hope they don’t cyclically become your futures.    The in ability to attach,  to trust and love the reasons that others found it necessary to cut out of your lives all the good people you’ve known , in order to know a new life, to adjust to  a new life with dad since he was discharged from  the Army, and we were no longer of use to mom in her absence, are not your issues, yes it impacted your lives but in no way are you to ever feel you could have changed it as children.     You will hopefully keep all the love and happiness inside, you will hopefully remember dancing and laughing and playing, the family gathering and births of cousins, that these joyful memories will help you as you become adults to know that  family is worth keeping, parents are worth loving and you will hopefully grow to be a wonderful aunt or uncle yourselves, you’ll keep your cousins in your lives, you parents will always be respected and treated like parents should be  .      We hope you know this is not your fault that you did nothing wo warrant being hurt by the feelings or misjudgments of others.  We understand it was not fair to either of you and that you will need to one day try to grasp all that has happened in this past year.     It will become a part of your own adulthood , to forgive people for the  denial and life altering decisions that you’ll bear witness to through out your youth  where in so many other children are able to have and enjoy,  but you’ve been denied.   You the dysfunctional environment that has now spread to your lives is not fair and it is a chain that will need to be broken.   One day you will hopefully learn how important mom and dad are to you, that they try to do the very best for you , that your children will benefit from having a Nana and Poppy who will share once the lives of your children… and you  two will not have issues with trust and attachment – but will bond, will love and will have gratitude for the family in your lives.    You may not always agree with the things your mom and dad chose, or how they handled things, but you will stop the cycle and help them see the values that you’ve been denied can and will be present in the lives of future generations should you have kids,  or in how you treat others as adults . Read More

When you miss those you love, where do you go?

Lisa March 7, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah,

We have given so much thought to the reality, the absolute fact, that when we last saw you there was so much love in your hearts, love for us, for everyone in the Mitten, there was so much happiness, laughter and fun every single day, and then as you left there was clearly so many tears, sobbing and so much desire to be in contact; however, now the claim is that you do not want to see your Nana and Poppy.   Verbatim, the reasons for this change in your feelings, we heard months after you left – , is that you were “lied to”, and you were made to “drink vinegar”.  No child,  and I mean no child of ours, no grandchild, was ever made to “drink vinegar”.   Yet, it is evident, that someone has taken minuscule pieces of half truths, and has manipulated  them in such a manner, that it is truly more than just sad , it’s viscous.   These contortions, are and have been leading to the premise, or an inference,  that your grandparents are vile people.   The accusatory nature is reminiscent of a pre teen behaviour once known , something peeveiousky witnessed in our lifetime,  that we had thought was past, and emotions of ore America healed, and youthful tantrums or distrust matured.   When we learned you two would be moving out of the Mitten, it was told to us that the five year plan had to change as there was a support reason that was mandated.   That mom was being forced to move.  That was the initial story we were told after your procedure in late 2017.  It has evolved through the weeks and months since you have left.   There truly is no telling what new turns and what the story will become as the years progress.   It seems that the trauma of youth is still claiming and destroying present day relationships and affecting so many innocent lives.

Suddenly, on this very website not too long ago, the statement, the blame was made that it is the two of you, that do not want to FaceTime.  As factual as the sun rising and setting each day,  during our last conversation you couldn’t wait to call Poppy, and it was utterly clear you wanted to see him, to talk, asking to call, but being denied for it “was 7:30pm and bedtime, you had school” the next morning. ” Can we call on the way to school?” and just like that the call was over and not a word from you two since.   Something is so off, so wrong, and the only thing we can remotely assimilate is that if there is any truth to YOU DO NOT WANT TO TALK TO US, it is that since you have had such drastic change, such loss, and feel we have not been able to help you, that you want so badly to have the approval, love and support of mom and dad, that you know how much dislike and actual hatred existed for Poppy and Nana , that ultimately, for your own emotional survival, you must do what it takes to win emotional security,  or maybe, you have been made to believe we are bad somehow and that we have done something so horrific, that we are unworthy of the common decency or kindness shown to any parent or grandparent.  Maybe it is just too hard for you, and so unfair,  to be in the middle, victims of the polarity, the opposite ends of this spectrum that is not to do with you in any way shape or form.

You’re innocent in all of this, and it is our hope that the feelings of others, will not continue to be projected upon your lives.  You not ever feel badly for not being able to say hi, see us, talk with us, share with us for it is not your fault.   The day all the other grandparents were at your new school, greeting the children, or celebrating grandparents day, the sorrow in your hearts,  the emotional load you carried, memories of the grandparent days with Nana and Poppy at Notre Dame, the burden must have been so great.   Please know,  we were not invited, we did not forget you, please know you must never believe we didn’t care.  Never think we ever have left you by our choice, for we have not.   We cannot fix the broken hearts of children, who never got to hear the words they so needed to hear.   Words like these, words that crossed any distance, and were spoken from the deepest place in the heart, to say “YOU ARE LOVED, AND ALWAYS WILL BE LOVED.”  There was no way for our kids who had lost faith, and felt they could not trust ANYONE, who felt jealous of brothers who never were sent away, and could not communicate how they felt…. these unresolved issues were instrumental in so many preventable events.  We hope that with pieces of truth, and an understanding that every one around you, from your parents to all the family, loves you – the outcome will be adults who can change the patterns, not let historical events repeat themselves, change the outcome with kindness, love and education behind the rock solid foundation you lived for so many years in the Mitten.

We love you both, from here to the moon and back,

forever and for always,

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

Sending ❤️ LOVE!

Nana March 3, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

Sending you lots of love today and always.   Hopeful that the weekend was full of laughter and fun.     We are thinking of you and we know youre likely in store for a busy school week ahead.   Make it amazing.   The more you learn the faster you’ll grow and before you know it – you will be teaching others all you’ve learned – and the best part is the whole world will get see you shine !    The love in our hearts will hopefully be felt and something you can always be a source of energy and we will always hope that little piece of happiness that no one can ever remove from your lives.       So stay focused on your reading and your math science and history. All the subject you are learning and blend it with all you learned in the Mitten – all of your life experiences will help you in the days and years to come.   We are so proud of you both.     Always know to ask your teachers for help any time you need it.  They will always look to make sure you understand things and help you when you’re in need.   The Catholic school systems usually seem to have the same protocols, as do public schools where in they has counselors and the administration, like the principle or vice principle who are always there to provide assistance and support.   Never be afraid to follow your heart, and stand up for those who need it, including yourself.  Love you both so much, to the moon and back,

forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

Never doubt the heart ❤️

Nana March 1, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

Always know the bravery and the courage within your hearts is amazing.    Your lives were always happy and full of love while in the Mitten.   Since you’ve been born we had always been there – loving you , holding you, helping you, and every single thing we ever did with you will NOT disappear.   You may think we are gone.    And that battle in your hearts/minds is very real because of the love you have for everyone, andcthe love we all have got you.   It is real and nothing can change it.    But… we want you to know there  no need to feel torn.    Our love will not leave.    Your travels to new adventures will take you both to lots of places and you’ll experience so many new things –  these pages are not a negative reflection of your past, not in anyway is there anything negative upon anything you are – they are all evidence of the happiness that is your early childhood.  They won’t deter you or impact you negatively from any jobs in your future, they are not  be a poor reflection as you go thru life, the words are the reality of you early years and they are a portion of your story.

Your lives in the Mitten brought so much joy and happiness, so many smiles so much positivity to teachers to friends to all of the lives you touched, you impacted cousins, the new babies were adorned with love , your aunts and uncles all shared in so much with the two of you, from swimming lessons and family trips to birthday parties and sharing everything possible with you both in the absence of your parents while they had to work .  The kind of family support and love that you can be so proud to have been a part of.

Community service projects and great grandparents whose lives you enriched beyond any words I could ever write.   These words are your Nana and Poppy cheering you on- we are and always have been cheering for you, and as your grandparents it’s something you both make so very easy !

The people you meet on your adventures through life will be just as lucky as we were all these years and when your grown,  no matter when you discover these words,  the endless love written over ten years time – will never be a negative reflection upon either of you.  You are so amazing and the lives touched by you both are better just having had the chance to share in your life.     May you get a chance to reunite with all your friends, teachers,  cousins,  aunts and uncles as well as great grandparents and us soon.   We are hoping that time  or someone will show your parents things more clearly soon and you will not miss the chance to continue this new adventure and share it with those you have always loved.

We love you to the moon and back,

forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?