Love forever ❤️?

Nana March 13, 2019 0Comments

 Dear Guillianna and Elijah-

With each day that passes we hope you will one day know – we are so very sorry that you’ve not been given the opportunity to see us, or the rest of your family in the Mitten.   It is truly so sad that you have been denied something like family,  those you have always loved or possibly have been swayed to no longer care for anymore –  you’ve been not been given the opportunity to share in the lives of people you loved so much for all of your lives, not your Aunts and Uncles, cousins that you grew up around for your entire lives, not your great grandparents and your Nana and Poppy, the friends who have written you and tried to be pen pals or FaceTime friends  –   No matter what you have been told, or what  it may seem… we are all still loving you both, proud of you both, wishing happiness for you both and imagining and hoping  a wonderful adventure is before you.    That you’ll heal from the trauma of all this and that all of us can one day understand love doesn’t just slip away,  and that the issues that caused all of this sorrow, are not your fault, they are not yours to carry, and we hope they don’t cyclically become your futures.    The in ability to attach,  to trust and love the reasons that others found it necessary to cut out of your lives all the good people you’ve known , in order to know a new life, to adjust to  a new life with dad since he was discharged from  the Army, and we were no longer of use to mom in her absence, are not your issues, yes it impacted your lives but in no way are you to ever feel you could have changed it as children.     You will hopefully keep all the love and happiness inside, you will hopefully remember dancing and laughing and playing, the family gathering and births of cousins, that these joyful memories will help you as you become adults to know that  family is worth keeping, parents are worth loving and you will hopefully grow to be a wonderful aunt or uncle yourselves, you’ll keep your cousins in your lives, you parents will always be respected and treated like parents should be  .      We hope you know this is not your fault that you did nothing wo warrant being hurt by the feelings or misjudgments of others.  We understand it was not fair to either of you and that you will need to one day try to grasp all that has happened in this past year.     It will become a part of your own adulthood , to forgive people for the  denial and life altering decisions that you’ll bear witness to through out your youth  where in so many other children are able to have and enjoy,  but you’ve been denied.   You the dysfunctional environment that has now spread to your lives is not fair and it is a chain that will need to be broken.   One day you will hopefully learn how important mom and dad are to you, that they try to do the very best for you , that your children will benefit from having a Nana and Poppy who will share once the lives of your children… and you  two will not have issues with trust and attachment – but will bond, will love and will have gratitude for the family in your lives.    You may not always agree with the things your mom and dad chose, or how they handled things, but you will stop the cycle and help them see the values that you’ve been denied can and will be present in the lives of future generations should you have kids,  or in how you treat others as adults . Read More

Sending ❤️ LOVE!

Nana March 3, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

Sending you lots of love today and always.   Hopeful that the weekend was full of laughter and fun.     We are thinking of you and we know youre likely in store for a busy school week ahead.   Make it amazing.   The more you learn the faster you’ll grow and before you know it – you will be teaching others all you’ve learned – and the best part is the whole world will get see you shine !    The love in our hearts will hopefully be felt and something you can always be a source of energy and we will always hope that little piece of happiness that no one can ever remove from your lives.       So stay focused on your reading and your math science and history. All the subject you are learning and blend it with all you learned in the Mitten – all of your life experiences will help you in the days and years to come.   We are so proud of you both.     Always know to ask your teachers for help any time you need it.  They will always look to make sure you understand things and help you when you’re in need.   The Catholic school systems usually seem to have the same protocols, as do public schools where in they has counselors and the administration, like the principle or vice principle who are always there to provide assistance and support.   Never be afraid to follow your heart, and stand up for those who need it, including yourself.  Love you both so much, to the moon and back,

forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

Never doubt the heart ❤️

Nana March 1, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

Always know the bravery and the courage within your hearts is amazing.    Your lives were always happy and full of love while in the Mitten.   Since you’ve been born we had always been there – loving you , holding you, helping you, and every single thing we ever did with you will NOT disappear.   You may think we are gone.    And that battle in your hearts/minds is very real because of the love you have for everyone, andcthe love we all have got you.   It is real and nothing can change it.    But… we want you to know there  no need to feel torn.    Our love will not leave.    Your travels to new adventures will take you both to lots of places and you’ll experience so many new things –  these pages are not a negative reflection of your past, not in anyway is there anything negative upon anything you are – they are all evidence of the happiness that is your early childhood.  They won’t deter you or impact you negatively from any jobs in your future, they are not  be a poor reflection as you go thru life, the words are the reality of you early years and they are a portion of your story.

Your lives in the Mitten brought so much joy and happiness, so many smiles so much positivity to teachers to friends to all of the lives you touched, you impacted cousins, the new babies were adorned with love , your aunts and uncles all shared in so much with the two of you, from swimming lessons and family trips to birthday parties and sharing everything possible with you both in the absence of your parents while they had to work .  The kind of family support and love that you can be so proud to have been a part of.

Community service projects and great grandparents whose lives you enriched beyond any words I could ever write.   These words are your Nana and Poppy cheering you on- we are and always have been cheering for you, and as your grandparents it’s something you both make so very easy !

The people you meet on your adventures through life will be just as lucky as we were all these years and when your grown,  no matter when you discover these words,  the endless love written over ten years time – will never be a negative reflection upon either of you.  You are so amazing and the lives touched by you both are better just having had the chance to share in your life.     May you get a chance to reunite with all your friends, teachers,  cousins,  aunts and uncles as well as great grandparents and us soon.   We are hoping that time  or someone will show your parents things more clearly soon and you will not miss the chance to continue this new adventure and share it with those you have always loved.

We love you to the moon and back,

forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

Bye bye February ….

Nana February 28, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah-

Are you getting your Leprechaun traps set or planned out?   Hard to believe it’s going to be spring soon and we still haven’t been able to speak with,  or see you two, absolutely devastating and so traumatic to you both both.    If you’ve been swayed to dislike or have been brainwashed  into the idea that life was bad in the Mitten the saddest part of your new potential ‘dislike’ for your Nana and Poppy – well, that would be 180 degrees from where you two were the day you left ?   To take on the mental anguish that would have to occur for such a drastic change is unimaginable and we are so sad if that is what has happened.    Or  if you are hiding your feelings and compensating for, bury the sorrow of missing us and your lives in he Mitten, all for acceptance … no matter how we try to imagine what has happened here , how you went from so much love for us to either never wanting to see or speak to us ?  Or wondering why we were here for grandparents day or having no answers to so many questions ….  It is all so sad and we continue  wondering what you’ve been told, and  what you have had to do each day to to be in ‘sync l’ with the idea that people you have always known loved and depended upon  are simply  disposable .     We hope March is breakthrough month for conversation and resolution that allows you both to have something many children are usually born into.    Having  love and support of family, not matter how different people are – that support that knowledge is a gift .  Usually it’s customary to believe in family , to enjoy having Grandparents .   These things , in the life of a child are a very wonderful gift.    At least in  most peoples interpretation or perception people are not to be cut out of a life and discarded as worthless.    To and to tear a child from the life they knew and loved – without having any rational, or  truthful reason, is simply the hashest and most cruel thing for us to imagine you have had to contend with and navigate daily.     When a child is fortunate to have extended family it’s  truly special.   We see that our own daughter has made decisions to leave behind her parents, her grandparents, her siblings, her neices and nephews.   She has given us all reason to worry and wonder if she understands the depth of the sorrow created in the actions to isolate herself and her children from people who have loved and supported her and her family for her entire life with us .   For all these years we have tried very diligently to show her dedication comittment and we have givien all we could possibly give to prove love for her and help her succeed in her decisions, the time afforded her to do all she has done for herself, the security of knowing you were both loved and cared for all those years , has now been manipulated into something evil and dishonest.    Poppy and I have been removed and treated by our own child as though we did something criminal .    That is reason for concern and sorrow beyond any words I could ever write.  There may never be a way to show her it change what is within her.

One thing learned over these many years is that the emotional traumas of children impact significantly the future adults that they become.    This website is designed simply to be a tool to help you as you grow and beginner to assimilate all that has transpired in your lives.  As well as a gift, the words and thoughts of your grandparents, that you may one day to know.   It is one of many facets that you will  be able to reference and it is hope that the information you find when grown will prevent you from closing yourself off to trust.   Help you in a way that was not afforded to small children who’s lives were also drastically changed when they experienced loss, or inability to have a voice, had no control of their own futures for they themselves were  put into a system in  Eastern European countries and their hearts broken can at young ages, creating huge emotional trauma that in some cases can be so very difficult to repair.   The acceptance of your parents position to change how they feel about the role we played in their lives as parents, the hope that they will one day see how much we love, how hard we tried, and what we did for all the years in your lives and in your moms life, up to the day they left the Mitten with you…. is and always has been in their power.   Life is about choices.   In research it is documented, that the choice to abandon, has been hard wired into some people, because they were abandoned.  The purpose of this love letter is to tell you, you the two of you have not ever been abandoned.   Not by us, not by your friends, cousins, aunts, uncles, great grandparents.   None of the people you love, who have shared your lives with ever chose this situation.    Ironically, as life always proves, the decisions of others, always affects many people, and the children that Nana and Poppy have always dedicated ourselves to , were deeply affected by actions and events in others lives, that chain of events, carries through and our lives all spin in directions based on the actions of others as well as ourselves.    The importance of our own decisions, our own choices, our own actions, is so very important because the influence and actions of others around us impacts even the best of intentions, the purest of hearts, and the deepest of dedication.    The foundation you build your lives on must be rock solid.   It needs integrity, courage and strength.   To keep you grounded when blindsided, when uneexpected circumstances arise, when the rug is pulled from beneath you.   Our love, our integrity and our dedication to our parents, children and grandchildren is true.  It is real, it is solid, and will not be manipulated into any fabrication less than it is.  Your parents love you deeply, so do we, so do all of the others you grew up with and trusted.   The issues you have been made to carry now, are created by others, not yourselves.    Poppy and I both hope you will always believe in love, in seeing the good, in giving, in kindness, in knowing youre both loved from here to the moon and back,

forever and for always,