For 9 & 6 years they lived with also loved Poppy

Nana February 21, 2019 0Comments

 Dear Guillianna and Elijah-

Please remember this last photo – it’s the night we went to dinner.   We took you both and mom to the Royal Park, and it is the last time you saw us .     You were told you’d be back to the Mitten in a few weeks.    You’re belongings were all left behind.   To some they were worthless.   All new belongings were purchased  and  anything you were attached to or loved ( less one small box of things) were left behind.    A basement full of toys and all your clothes and favorite “nana loves me” jammies.      To detach you.  And present you with all new lovely things and let you reconnect in your new environment.    To  help you learn “how to cut people out of your lives like a kindergartener cute out paper snowflakes”. I am so sorry you have missed out on time with this man .  He is pure good , pure in heart and in action.    And he has only ever loved you both.    We both love you to the moon and back – we will not ever be able to understand why , nor can we change what is – yet no matter what obstacles you may ever face, no matter what the challenges are or the despite any sorrow we wish you to know that people you meet and people you have loved in the Mitten still love you    Will always wish for you to be courageous and work so very hard to create the best and happiest lives you can     That Nana and Poppy are exactly who you remember us to be in these photos in your hearts and that in all you do in this life always be kind, be good and know that when something happens – that was not in your power, not your doing , that you feel torn or lost – search deep    Find the laughter the joy the fun and the happiness we always shared and pass it to others around you.  Every time you share a tradition you learned with Nana and Poppy , remember something that makes you smile ,  find a way to take that memory or that moment of joy and spread it   – children that grow into adults often have people in their lives that influence them and guide them.     People who impact them so much so – they are able to feel them near when they think of them.     Poppy is pure good.     When you picture yourselves dancing with your sword and grass skirt the Moana production the smile in your hearts can and should lift you.  Your Nana and Poppy’s love may seem nothing but a memory but it is everywhere. It’s been an active almost daily part of your entire lives until this past year- no one can take our love  from you.   It’s true you will think we have left –    But no one left either of you.     We simple did all we could in the absence of your mom and dad, and since they have alternate course in mind for now we will hope you will see everyone soon .   We love you to the moon and back –

forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

Every day is the same wish –

Nana February 20, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah-

This says it all.    We do love you – so much and hope you are having a wonderful week. Every day we hope you will be strong and never forget all the good memories you’ve always had even if you’re being conditioned to do so –    The saddest  part about the position that has been taken by mom and dad to date – is what it or this does has done and will do – to you both.   Being that they cannot see what loss  of people and trust in those they loved did to them , and how they are affected by the childhood experience .     All that is visible to them currently gis that they t they don’t think it matters now.     That inability to see clearly the emotional hardship the past  created – the lack of understanding could have a  very negative effect on so many others.     They have nieces and nephews.  They have family in the Mitten and they have abandoned all of it.    Under a false pretense.     Time is something we never can get back.   And the lesson may never be learned Or it may  take so long to learn that valuable days and weeks months and years will be lost .   Please know we did nothing to deserve the events that have transpired.    These events the responsibility for the alienation you’ve been subjected to is not on actions of your grandparents but rather are the result the circumstances that developed as you mom was a child –

The broken trust the loss of life she loved and the inability to control anything seemingly has left her incapable of showing us her parents love, trusting us  and led to fabricating so many inferences that are not relevant to your lives with us or your experiences, rather how she feels or her own emotions.    The resolve is not on you two .    The burden is however yours and that is so sad . The lack of regard  for her parents for her siblings, her own neices and nephews  and the life you lived here the value of the people in your life here is something she cannot relate to or she would not have done this.     I apologize for not being present, that we are not enough to fix the broken feelings inside some of our children .   Love was not enough to fix all the issues or burdens they were left to manage.     This series of letters will hopefully help prevent you from feeling as though you are bad, maybe help you to not be angry ,  help you to see that all of the adults involved love you deeply and to lock in  and immortalize important and valuable wonderful memories  – to allow you to one day know and feel that they are special and good and in no way were either of you ever unhappy during your lives here in the Mitten!

We love you to the moon and back Forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Pippy❤️?

We love and miss you ?

Nana February 19, 2019 0Comments

 Dear Beanie & BoBo- aka Guillianna and Elijah -?❤️

So much time has passed by and we find ourselves thinking about all the good times we spent.    Hoping that you are happy and having many more wonderful adventures.    I am sorry that mom has chosen to abandon her family.   She has had a great deal of pressure to support all that transpired since they returned from Korea and through the years – we hope that one day she will see what exactly parenting truly involves, and that she  finds  her dad, your grandfather and myself are worthy of her acceptance and then shows that she values us as important individuals in both of your lives.   He always was in your years with us and in her childhood, and still  is a wonderful person.    Soon great Grandma is to have her 90th birthday.      She wanted to have a birthday party and we have invited all of our children and their children to attend.     If mom and dad didn’t wish to attend,  it is our hope they would be able to see that the two of you should have that opportunity.  Where there is a will there is a way …  they may be able to put the feelings of their children and a 90 year old ,Poppy’’s parents and all the cousins and siblings before their own dislikes, at least  we can hope.

We are thinking of you today and always and love you’ve to the moon and back,

forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

Presidents’ Day …

Nana February 18, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah-

We are missing you both so very much –  we cannot imagine what must have been said to you both, or rather when we try to envision how two innocent kids went from needing hugs and kisses all the time,  living with us day in and day out, – to our disappearance from your lives? It’s simply the saddest emotion imaginable.    For your innocence and your heart break has been caught up in the disdain or objectives of your parents , not a result of your years in the Mitten.    The possible effects of such emotional duress is what drives the continued written love and support.   These pages have been compiled for you when you grow older and hopefully when the smiles and memories are seen we can only hope it will allow you to feel a sense of love and true devotion we have always had and will always have,  to your happiness as childrenand future adults.   We hope  that you will know the love  have otherwise been denied in these past months and seemingly into the future.   Poppy is the eternal optimist and is hopeful one day soon his own daughter will recognize what has not been seen to date , that someone will value life time of dedication to helping loving and comittment w parent has for a child , and our role in her life and in yours, or at the very least see the true loss her own children are experiencing .     He will always have hope yet he too cannot imagine what you’ve been toldwhat you’re going thru and how you have no one you could even talk to about it without fear of disappointing the parents you love  – wonder as to why either we disappeared-  Or why you no longer can see or talk to us.  Why we are not sharing in your lives as we always had….  When you left it was so clear how you felt about us.  The  love you have had in your hearts and how much you always looked forward to being with us and it’s validated by how you responded when mom would simply call and allow you to be talking to us.    The way you wanted to talk to and see Poppy last time we FaceTimed  in May 2018 and  how it contradicts this statement currently being said , that you “don’t want to talk to us”.    Are Stories  are being manufactured ?   What could have been explained to you to rationalize or explain how your grandparents can be disowned after nine years of living as primary care givers in your lives and after a lifetime of love and caring for mom.  The reality is clearly being distorted into something untrue – or truth held back,  and yet I know that if you could freely speak to or spend time around every single person who ever saw you during your years in the Mitten, every person you ever had contact with , all the teachers and coaches and friends – all your relatives, you would be assured how happy you had been and how loved and cared for you were.     You would be able to verify and ask any questions you wish of your childhood in the Mitten and they would all say – you were both so very happy and given every single opportunity Nana and Poppy could possibly imagine to make sure you were both safe and happy and every drop of energy and love behind it was sincere and your time spent appreciated beyond measure.   We have helped our daughter never asking anything in return and supporting her educational and professional goals 100 percent     She was able to finish college provide for you an avenue to get your own educations and provided some of the financial resources needed for extracurricular activities, she served her country and paid the price of many lost years that she wants very much to recapture .    Sadly your hearts had to be severed from all you knew and everything you loved so much.    Our hope for both of you is that your love and  the respect for parents, the love and images of these pages,  will help you restore the broken trust you must have felt when all you ever knew as your family  suddenly was disappearing .   As time passes – your minds may forget nuances or details – but your heart-break and distrust issues could lurk beneath and if that happens KNOW there is no truth to any possible or conceivable scenario that warranted the events that have happened since November of 2017 , which is where Poppy and I first became aware of something was up.  It was Guillianna who told us that they “ had to move”.     Oddly it was then that our own daughter told us  the Army was forcing her to move to be a support system.    Everything that transpired there after is a series of shock surprises and has now resulted in vilifying Nana and Poppy –    The repeat of the drama that unfolded in the months since you have left is beyond comprehension- and it’s the children who had to pay the price for it all.      Until the day comes where truth is exposed the  you are free to voice happily with mom and day as well as have a relationship with those you have loved in their absence- the pain continues.

Wishing you love always – to the moon and back

forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?