When you miss those you love, where do you go?

Lisa March 7, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah,

We have given so much thought to the reality, the absolute fact, that when we last saw you there was so much love in your hearts, love for us, for everyone in the Mitten, there was so much happiness, laughter and fun every single day, and then as you left there was clearly so many tears, sobbing and so much desire to be in contact; however, now the claim is that you do not want to see your Nana and Poppy.   Verbatim, the reasons for this change in your feelings, we heard months after you left – , is that you were “lied to”, and you were made to “drink vinegar”.  No child,  and I mean no child of ours, no grandchild, was ever made to “drink vinegar”.   Yet, it is evident, that someone has taken minuscule pieces of half truths, and has manipulated  them in such a manner, that it is truly more than just sad , it’s viscous.   These contortions, are and have been leading to the premise, or an inference,  that your grandparents are vile people.   The accusatory nature is reminiscent of a pre teen behaviour once known , something peeveiousky witnessed in our lifetime,  that we had thought was past, and emotions of ore America healed, and youthful tantrums or distrust matured.   When we learned you two would be moving out of the Mitten, it was told to us that the five year plan had to change as there was a support reason that was mandated.   That mom was being forced to move.  That was the initial story we were told after your procedure in late 2017.  It has evolved through the weeks and months since you have left.   There truly is no telling what new turns and what the story will become as the years progress.   It seems that the trauma of youth is still claiming and destroying present day relationships and affecting so many innocent lives.

Suddenly, on this very website not too long ago, the statement, the blame was made that it is the two of you, that do not want to FaceTime.  As factual as the sun rising and setting each day,  during our last conversation you couldn’t wait to call Poppy, and it was utterly clear you wanted to see him, to talk, asking to call, but being denied for it “was 7:30pm and bedtime, you had school” the next morning. ” Can we call on the way to school?” and just like that the call was over and not a word from you two since.   Something is so off, so wrong, and the only thing we can remotely assimilate is that if there is any truth to YOU DO NOT WANT TO TALK TO US, it is that since you have had such drastic change, such loss, and feel we have not been able to help you, that you want so badly to have the approval, love and support of mom and dad, that you know how much dislike and actual hatred existed for Poppy and Nana , that ultimately, for your own emotional survival, you must do what it takes to win emotional security,  or maybe, you have been made to believe we are bad somehow and that we have done something so horrific, that we are unworthy of the common decency or kindness shown to any parent or grandparent.  Maybe it is just too hard for you, and so unfair,  to be in the middle, victims of the polarity, the opposite ends of this spectrum that is not to do with you in any way shape or form.

You’re innocent in all of this, and it is our hope that the feelings of others, will not continue to be projected upon your lives.  You not ever feel badly for not being able to say hi, see us, talk with us, share with us for it is not your fault.   The day all the other grandparents were at your new school, greeting the children, or celebrating grandparents day, the sorrow in your hearts,  the emotional load you carried, memories of the grandparent days with Nana and Poppy at Notre Dame, the burden must have been so great.   Please know,  we were not invited, we did not forget you, please know you must never believe we didn’t care.  Never think we ever have left you by our choice, for we have not.   We cannot fix the broken hearts of children, who never got to hear the words they so needed to hear.   Words like these, words that crossed any distance, and were spoken from the deepest place in the heart, to say “YOU ARE LOVED, AND ALWAYS WILL BE LOVED.”  There was no way for our kids who had lost faith, and felt they could not trust ANYONE, who felt jealous of brothers who never were sent away, and could not communicate how they felt…. these unresolved issues were instrumental in so many preventable events.  We hope that with pieces of truth, and an understanding that every one around you, from your parents to all the family, loves you – the outcome will be adults who can change the patterns, not let historical events repeat themselves, change the outcome with kindness, love and education behind the rock solid foundation you lived for so many years in the Mitten.

We love you both, from here to the moon and back,

forever and for always,

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

Sending ❤️ LOVE!

Nana March 3, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

Sending you lots of love today and always.   Hopeful that the weekend was full of laughter and fun.     We are thinking of you and we know youre likely in store for a busy school week ahead.   Make it amazing.   The more you learn the faster you’ll grow and before you know it – you will be teaching others all you’ve learned – and the best part is the whole world will get see you shine !    The love in our hearts will hopefully be felt and something you can always be a source of energy and we will always hope that little piece of happiness that no one can ever remove from your lives.       So stay focused on your reading and your math science and history. All the subject you are learning and blend it with all you learned in the Mitten – all of your life experiences will help you in the days and years to come.   We are so proud of you both.     Always know to ask your teachers for help any time you need it.  They will always look to make sure you understand things and help you when you’re in need.   The Catholic school systems usually seem to have the same protocols, as do public schools where in they has counselors and the administration, like the principle or vice principle who are always there to provide assistance and support.   Never be afraid to follow your heart, and stand up for those who need it, including yourself.  Love you both so much, to the moon and back,

forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

Never doubt the heart ❤️

Nana March 1, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

Always know the bravery and the courage within your hearts is amazing.    Your lives were always happy and full of love while in the Mitten.   Since you’ve been born we had always been there – loving you , holding you, helping you, and every single thing we ever did with you will NOT disappear.   You may think we are gone.    And that battle in your hearts/minds is very real because of the love you have for everyone, andcthe love we all have got you.   It is real and nothing can change it.    But… we want you to know there  no need to feel torn.    Our love will not leave.    Your travels to new adventures will take you both to lots of places and you’ll experience so many new things –  these pages are not a negative reflection of your past, not in anyway is there anything negative upon anything you are – they are all evidence of the happiness that is your early childhood.  They won’t deter you or impact you negatively from any jobs in your future, they are not  be a poor reflection as you go thru life, the words are the reality of you early years and they are a portion of your story.

Your lives in the Mitten brought so much joy and happiness, so many smiles so much positivity to teachers to friends to all of the lives you touched, you impacted cousins, the new babies were adorned with love , your aunts and uncles all shared in so much with the two of you, from swimming lessons and family trips to birthday parties and sharing everything possible with you both in the absence of your parents while they had to work .  The kind of family support and love that you can be so proud to have been a part of.

Community service projects and great grandparents whose lives you enriched beyond any words I could ever write.   These words are your Nana and Poppy cheering you on- we are and always have been cheering for you, and as your grandparents it’s something you both make so very easy !

The people you meet on your adventures through life will be just as lucky as we were all these years and when your grown,  no matter when you discover these words,  the endless love written over ten years time – will never be a negative reflection upon either of you.  You are so amazing and the lives touched by you both are better just having had the chance to share in your life.     May you get a chance to reunite with all your friends, teachers,  cousins,  aunts and uncles as well as great grandparents and us soon.   We are hoping that time  or someone will show your parents things more clearly soon and you will not miss the chance to continue this new adventure and share it with those you have always loved.

We love you to the moon and back,

forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

Bye bye February ….

Nana February 28, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah-

Are you getting your Leprechaun traps set or planned out?   Hard to believe it’s going to be spring soon and we still haven’t been able to speak with,  or see you two, absolutely devastating and so traumatic to you both both.    If you’ve been swayed to dislike or have been brainwashed  into the idea that life was bad in the Mitten the saddest part of your new potential ‘dislike’ for your Nana and Poppy – well, that would be 180 degrees from where you two were the day you left ?   To take on the mental anguish that would have to occur for such a drastic change is unimaginable and we are so sad if that is what has happened.    Or  if you are hiding your feelings and compensating for, bury the sorrow of missing us and your lives in he Mitten, all for acceptance … no matter how we try to imagine what has happened here , how you went from so much love for us to either never wanting to see or speak to us ?  Or wondering why we were here for grandparents day or having no answers to so many questions ….  It is all so sad and we continue  wondering what you’ve been told, and  what you have had to do each day to to be in ‘sync l’ with the idea that people you have always known loved and depended upon  are simply  disposable .     We hope March is breakthrough month for conversation and resolution that allows you both to have something many children are usually born into.    Having  love and support of family, not matter how different people are – that support that knowledge is a gift .  Usually it’s customary to believe in family , to enjoy having Grandparents .   These things , in the life of a child are a very wonderful gift.    At least in  most peoples interpretation or perception people are not to be cut out of a life and discarded as worthless.    To and to tear a child from the life they knew and loved – without having any rational, or  truthful reason, is simply the hashest and most cruel thing for us to imagine you have had to contend with and navigate daily.     When a child is fortunate to have extended family it’s  truly special.   We see that our own daughter has made decisions to leave behind her parents, her grandparents, her siblings, her neices and nephews.   She has given us all reason to worry and wonder if she understands the depth of the sorrow created in the actions to isolate herself and her children from people who have loved and supported her and her family for her entire life with us .   For all these years we have tried very diligently to show her dedication comittment and we have givien all we could possibly give to prove love for her and help her succeed in her decisions, the time afforded her to do all she has done for herself, the security of knowing you were both loved and cared for all those years , has now been manipulated into something evil and dishonest.    Poppy and I have been removed and treated by our own child as though we did something criminal .    That is reason for concern and sorrow beyond any words I could ever write.  There may never be a way to show her it change what is within her.

One thing learned over these many years is that the emotional traumas of children impact significantly the future adults that they become.    This website is designed simply to be a tool to help you as you grow and beginner to assimilate all that has transpired in your lives.  As well as a gift, the words and thoughts of your grandparents, that you may one day to know.   It is one of many facets that you will  be able to reference and it is hope that the information you find when grown will prevent you from closing yourself off to trust.   Help you in a way that was not afforded to small children who’s lives were also drastically changed when they experienced loss, or inability to have a voice, had no control of their own futures for they themselves were  put into a system in  Eastern European countries and their hearts broken can at young ages, creating huge emotional trauma that in some cases can be so very difficult to repair.   The acceptance of your parents position to change how they feel about the role we played in their lives as parents, the hope that they will one day see how much we love, how hard we tried, and what we did for all the years in your lives and in your moms life, up to the day they left the Mitten with you…. is and always has been in their power.   Life is about choices.   In research it is documented, that the choice to abandon, has been hard wired into some people, because they were abandoned.  The purpose of this love letter is to tell you, you the two of you have not ever been abandoned.   Not by us, not by your friends, cousins, aunts, uncles, great grandparents.   None of the people you love, who have shared your lives with ever chose this situation.    Ironically, as life always proves, the decisions of others, always affects many people, and the children that Nana and Poppy have always dedicated ourselves to , were deeply affected by actions and events in others lives, that chain of events, carries through and our lives all spin in directions based on the actions of others as well as ourselves.    The importance of our own decisions, our own choices, our own actions, is so very important because the influence and actions of others around us impacts even the best of intentions, the purest of hearts, and the deepest of dedication.    The foundation you build your lives on must be rock solid.   It needs integrity, courage and strength.   To keep you grounded when blindsided, when uneexpected circumstances arise, when the rug is pulled from beneath you.   Our love, our integrity and our dedication to our parents, children and grandchildren is true.  It is real, it is solid, and will not be manipulated into any fabrication less than it is.  Your parents love you deeply, so do we, so do all of the others you grew up with and trusted.   The issues you have been made to carry now, are created by others, not yourselves.    Poppy and I both hope you will always believe in love, in seeing the good, in giving, in kindness, in knowing youre both loved from here to the moon and back,

forever and for always,