Dear Guillianna and Elijah-
Last year on this day we thought surely your mom would have you call and tell Great Grandma Sharyn HAPPY BIRTHDAY – she did not.
Great Grandma has always been kind and loving. She has supported your mom though out all her life. She has only ever shown unconditional love and has never done anything mean or harmful to anyone. Her greatest joy is when her children and their families are happy. The truth is the truth and she is as good a person as anyone could ever hope to be. Nicer than anyone we know and deserving of respect and kindness. Today she has another birthday and we can hope our daughter will take a close look at how she has been supported by her family and especially great Grandma Sharyn and ask herself when it is enough. It seems that even a criminal would be treated with greater kindness than the mental anguish and torture that has been brought upon so many in this family great grandparents. Your grandparents , and mommy’s grand parents have no value to some , but we do know the value that you both have on family. We know the love you have always had for your Mitten State family and we send you a love letter to say – it’s ok that you could not say hello. It’s ok that happy Birthday wishes were banned. These actions are not a reflection upon yourselves. These are choices made for you by someone else who themselves have no value upon, or or any experience themselves, on how to show respect for family for parent or grandparent, or how to honor those in their lives that protected them, sheltered them, loved them, and raised them . You were shown when you were small how we celebrate family. You loved, lived, and throughly enjoyed the family. The lessons learned this day and since last year have been handed to you and when your older you will find the code of ethics, honor, value and beliefs that you will feel best suit you. Know this, we will tell great Grandma happy birthday for you. We will share memories of happier times, we will smile and we will hold those beautiful memories close until we one day meet again. And if for any reason that day doesn’t come in our lifetimes, know that you’re loved, you’re not to blame, and your missed deeply.
This is quite a long time ago ….
We have so many memories to reflect upon
That nothing can change the sincere and pure love you have had for any of us, or the love they have had for you !
The truth is the truth. We will always love you both – we will never have deserved what has been the course of these past months and you two will pay the price for the inhumanity that has taken precious relationships and time from you. Know this, on this birthday for your great grandmother, we will tell her very HAPPY healthy birthday Gg-ma from Elijah and Guillianna – who would be hugging you, smiling with you and celebrating with you if they could, if they didn’t fear disappointing their own parents by showing the true loss they feel in their hearts. What a horrible situation for the innocent , what a horrible position it must have been when the trauma a one time little girl must have felt when she lost own mother, her own grandmother and the Romanian life she had only ever known. The depth of loss and abandonment so insurmountable that history has been repeated. There is no reason, no mistreatment, no justification for the events of the past months. Seemingly only a need to break all bonds, and replace them. Self serving intent that for which the price is potential disastrous relationship outcomes. Today’s love letter is to ensure you know – you need never carry guilt, you need not have feelings that you’re memories were less that true, you were not abandoned by all those who love you and we will always love unconditionally two innocents caught in between the traumas of another , that have become your own. The difference for you both is this . Some of our children had such hurt and disparity over being sent away by family, or loss and inability to stay connected – you will always have these letters. You will not lose connectivity. You will always have the promise that you’re loved. Poppy and Nana are but two of a chain of people who love you , and will always know that the flames of love, the embers of your happiness here in the smitten can burn inside you, grow with new experiences new time spent in the love of your parents and glow as you become adults. Missing you both, we love you to the moon and back –
forever and for always ,
❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?