Dear Guillianna and Elijah-
With each day that passes we hope you will one day know – we are so very sorry that you’ve not been given the opportunity to see us, or the rest of your family in the Mitten. It is truly so sad that you have been denied something like family, those you have always loved or possibly have been swayed to no longer care for anymore – you’ve been not been given the opportunity to share in the lives of people you loved so much for all of your lives, not your Aunts and Uncles, cousins that you grew up around for your entire lives, not your great grandparents and your Nana and Poppy, the friends who have written you and tried to be pen pals or FaceTime friends – No matter what you have been told, or what it may seem… we are all still loving you both, proud of you both, wishing happiness for you both and imagining and hoping a wonderful adventure is before you. That you’ll heal from the trauma of all this and that all of us can one day understand love doesn’t just slip away, and that the issues that caused all of this sorrow, are not your fault, they are not yours to carry, and we hope they don’t cyclically become your futures. The in ability to attach, to trust and love the reasons that others found it necessary to cut out of your lives all the good people you’ve known , in order to know a new life, to adjust to a new life with dad since he was discharged from the Army, and we were no longer of use to mom in her absence, are not your issues, yes it impacted your lives but in no way are you to ever feel you could have changed it as children. You will hopefully keep all the love and happiness inside, you will hopefully remember dancing and laughing and playing, the family gathering and births of cousins, that these joyful memories will help you as you become adults to know that family is worth keeping, parents are worth loving and you will hopefully grow to be a wonderful aunt or uncle yourselves, you’ll keep your cousins in your lives, you parents will always be respected and treated like parents should be . We hope you know this is not your fault that you did nothing wo warrant being hurt by the feelings or misjudgments of others. We understand it was not fair to either of you and that you will need to one day try to grasp all that has happened in this past year. It will become a part of your own adulthood , to forgive people for the denial and life altering decisions that you’ll bear witness to through out your youth where in so many other children are able to have and enjoy, but you’ve been denied. You the dysfunctional environment that has now spread to your lives is not fair and it is a chain that will need to be broken. One day you will hopefully learn how important mom and dad are to you, that they try to do the very best for you , that your children will benefit from having a Nana and Poppy who will share once the lives of your children… and you two will not have issues with trust and attachment – but will bond, will love and will have gratitude for the family in your lives. You may not always agree with the things your mom and dad chose, or how they handled things, but you will stop the cycle and help them see the values that you’ve been denied can and will be present in the lives of future generations should you have kids, or in how you treat others as adults .
We are sad that you’re innocence and your need to be loved and feel accepted and loved will tear you apart inside between the good and happy memories and the idea that the people in your lives are readily disposable – Spring break should be around the corner for you two , so we hope you’re working hard at school and will soon have a vacation to bring you happiness and fun ! We love you to the moon and back for ever and for always…
XOXOXOXOXOXO
❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?