The truth is ….

Dear Guillianna and Elijah-

The truth is , you’re innocent little lives deserve so much more than where you’ve been placed.   To love us is to defy, hurt and  be maligned with you’re mom and dad .  How sad is that ?

The truth is – based upon choices that were not your own, you may not ever remember all the wonderful memories the  two of you had in the Mitten, with us, with family.  The reality is that we have seen in these past moths the distortion and misconceptions that will become your future opinions and will prevent you from ever having the continuity and stability you one had, you will hopefully have new memories and love with stability and  even if we the Mitten family and memories , even if all are forgotten –  or turned into evil for you to build your lives upon these pages and all the truths and facts will be yours to rest assured and know none of it was you doing anything wrong,  no one left your lives by choice, no one stopped caring , loving and hoping …. we all are at a loss for any sign of common courtesy, decency or understanding  from your parents.   The prideful morality, mantra and spoken promise that “I cut people out of my life-like a kindergartener cuts out paper snowflakes” is not something anyone I have ever known would be proud to raise children upon and is an unknown and unfamiliar territory for Poppy and Nana.   Some people are Republican , some Democrats and others Independent, Green  or no politely party at all.  Some people are one religion or another, some people have children, some do not , the world is full of so many different opinions and beliefs.   People in the USA are free to make all kinds of choices .    In this scenario you two as small kids have been caught between two very different perspectives and in our heart and soul we know when you left here –  the feeling of love and sorrow for leaving the desire to talk to us and FaceTime “all the time” was promised – then with the snap of a finger we were demonized vilified and all contact was removed .

As time  has continued to pass it is more and more clear the level hatred in the hearts of others , the inability to attach or believe in having a Nana and Poppy, or that we are worthy of  having any value to your lives, these ideas these objectives will become your very own sediment over time.  The feelings of discourse and the  devaluation for family will become your own  mantra and this lack of desire to have extended family cousins aunts uncles great grandparents or grandparents from the Mitten  , will be poured into you both, and as a result of it, it is entirely possible  you may carry forever the broken hearts and emotional traumas of being taken from everything you loved and knew as family If so –  you will have been forced to alter your perception of what was true and real to the untruthful, unkind perception that we are somehow bad, or not worth the civility of a photo , a call, a simple gesture of kindness.

The truth is YOUR CHILDHOOD FOR NINE AND SIX YEARS , ACTIVE IN OUR LIVES WAS INCREDIBLE AND FUN, HAPPY AND  YOU WERE NOT EVER MISTREATED, you only knew love and fun … you were our priority.     There was nothing that we could have done more of to ensure your good health, safety , education, and more.    What is salsa sad is the anguish you will endure forever because of something not in your power to change is devastating for us .  That our own daughter did not and cannot see her parents for whom they are.    That she will have  taken so many of her childhood issues and spread the toxic jealousy and anger to her children.  Or lied to them about us, to make them detach .    There is no way for us to stop this sorrowful  journey that has begun of no fault of your own and no choice of your own.      All we can do write and tell you of our love and the story of our lives – that brought your mom to us , our family together and the documents that support all we say and our history as parents and grandparents .

Many of our love letters are now hidden and cannot be seen publicly.    You two will be able to see them in their entirety.    They will unveil themselves when of age.    But do not doubt for a single day that memories wonderful happy and beautiful memories  flood to  both Poppy and I daily.   Loving wonderful happy memories.    You may be stripped of them by time and altered facts.  You may be forever impacted by this turn of events and restricted access, But as you grow as you enter adulthood you will be able to know you were loved , are loved, will always be loved but ya, by everyone here in the Mitten and by mom and dad.    The truth is –  the fact is – we love you both to the moon and back,

forever and for always ,

The truth is , we are grateful for the opportunity to have been the rock solid foundation full of love, fun, hugs, kindness, laughter, and good in your lives , to have been the two people who despite what anyone may have told you it the past year, over the coming years  , we were your moms parents , we did all that two parents could do to help their children and grandchildren and we did it to the very best of our ability .  We never would say we don’t want to see you , we never would do or say anything  that would qualify for how we’ve been treated.   A stranger in the street is treated with more respect common courtesy than we Have been in this past year and how you two  are being treated in all of this by swaying you to alter all you ever knew from us , into fabrications that are so horrific that we are now told  you no longer wish to see, talk to , or know the very people you loved so deeply.   How could this happen to anyone you ever knew in the Mitten?  I mean  a felon , a criminal would be Withheld from visits and communication in this way.   But us?    The message that has been sent to you is so sad and concerning.    Now as adults you will have to decipher your broken hearts and the experience you’ve been thrust into … with the result equally traumatic.   To know people you love and trusted  were removed from your life by people you love and trust and will one day learn did so for personal reasons that were based upon lie or misrepresentation is more heart ache for you –   Loss  is  something that we each are experiencing at different developmental levels /ages and impacts each of us differently.     This journal all th hidden letters and documents as well as the public ones will hopefully protect, educate  and serve you as you navigate the emotional minefield that has been laid before your feet.

The truth is – you will always  be  our amazing,  intelligent,  hard working, good, sweet , kind and dedicated ardent love,  examples .      Our love will not change and will not be altered by the words that have been sent , the trail of documents to show you how this has been created to look as though we ever deserved this that you two ever deserved this to happen and you have been led to believe that banishing people is in your best interest is above all things that have happened the most sorrowful that it is brought to your feet at the hands of your mom and her emotions.

The truth is You are loved by your parents and loved by Nana and Poppy and all those in the Mitten and elsewhere that  you’ve been withdrawn from .

The price to pay will be yours sadly and there is nothing any of us can do to prevent the anguish, the loss, the heart ache.

The truth is you may not likely see great grandparents before they pass with great Granada Sally turning 90 tomorrow, great Grandma Sharyn having had her birthday pass too with out even so much as a card of text or call from her grand child     Someone who looked out for you mom, helped your mom, protected her, gave of herself and always supported your mom.     Banished .   The conscious choices have been made on your behalf and are said to be in your best interest.   Time will tell in about 8 years at least one of you will be 18.  At that time  Guillianna will have had nine years living with us in your lives and 9 years living a new adventure without us.   The truth is – you will forget your early years    First steps first words, first foods firsts of every kind all documented for you.  All there for you to see if the story you may be led to believe matches with your memories and the facts you will uncover in the journals of our lives.

The truth is that Elijah will have had six years he will likely forget about and these page will show him who his Poppy and Nana were – the hope is that you will then take the truth and live healthy happy lives shared with those you want to share it with!

The truth is – you will grow and have your own dreams and pursue your own goals and make decisions for your own children some day and we can hope you will feel the joy, the completion of voids  and the benefit of these memories we have preserved for you

to the moon and back,

forever and for always –

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️ NANA AND POPPY ❤️?