Truths weather the storm…
Dear Guillianna and Elijah,
Field trips and birthday parties, and fun times ! I hope and am certain you will have new friends and new adventures- yet it will be fun one day for you to look back and remember so many Mitten adventures. The photo above is when Elijah went to a birthday party for Annalise. Guge was not invited to this one so there is not a photo of her on a horse but instead she went to an ice skating party for a friend, Kate, that Elijah was not at. Or an organized trip to a pretzel factory where one child is invited and the other is not- We have heard about how we didn’t let Eli ice skate but we’re never asked why, nor did we hear how we didn’t let Guilliana ride, and ironically all to build an impression to small kids that we were unfair! Hopefully now as active full time parents more is now understood about how when invited to birthday parties it can be difficult to always have the sibling attend too, (especially when siblings are not included), rather than to tell innocent children and build a case that says that their grandparents were unfair, maybe as time goes on there will be understanding – a simple request of explanation rather than accusation and partial truths to twist and manipulate the reality into a case for disowning grandparents . The saddest thing of all is that two innocent kids have been made to believe that their grandparents they loved with for so many years are somehow bad, when everything in their souls will be telling them it’s not true, that worthwhile people they love and care for are somehow inhuman, that human lives are disposable , and can be cut out like paper snowflakes from their lives… that idea, that sad concept is why we must write. The hope that one day truthful real and important foundational memories will be seen, freed, and the warmth and compassion inside of the two of you will see and understand that the real truth is everyone loves you both! Everyone has done for you the very best they were capable of doing, that your parents love you and your Nana and Poppy do too. That you do not need to ever be sad, feel bad, or live with guilt. You need not be angry, or feel hurt. We love you we always will and we will always know truth and so too will you .
There have been so many things in the Mitten that were done together, and so many things that were done that were individual either based upon age, extracurricular activities chosen by your parents, or friends etc., however no matter what anyone ever infers, during the Mitten stay, while in our care, you two, were our priority and we always put your needs first ! Always ! Your happiness was everything to Poppy and Nana. Making mom happy, showing her that she could count on us, that she can trust. Making someone believe in family and trust is not easy. We always hoped we could . We can still hope one day it is seen and no one can take away a persona hope. It lives deep inside with all the love a parent and grandparent has.
Seems there have been amazing moments captured and it is those images we hope will continue to live inside of you. The hope is that if you have felt you must side with unkind words, side with falseness and ideas of unhappiness in the Mitten, to feel loved and accepted to feel safe and stable we can fully appreciate the long term effect of that situation. We also understand and love you both. We know that you have both been caught in between the love and good you have always felt from us and the new reality that is we have been exiled or forbidden from your lives. Never forget that the truth is always the truth and eventually it finds a way to survive and rise out of a storm of untruths.
We love you both TO THE MOON AND BACK,
FOREVER AND FOR ALWAYS,
❤️Nana and Poppy❤️🍪