WE WONDER IF THERE ARE TIMES YOU SIMPLY WANT TO CRY ?
grandparents are friends for life…
Dear Guillianna and Elijah:
It occurred to me that you likely go to sleep at night, or when alone, you could get sad. Sometimes you may even find yourself crying or missing certain people or things but then we understand, yet at the same time you also know that if you’re sad that you miss us or the Mitten state – people in the Mitten, or things you did, it could make your mom and dad sad. You could think, “if I tell anyone or show anyone, Will it make them mad, or sad, or dissappointed in me?’. We could never be dissapointed since this is not anything you can fix.
PLEASE KNOW WE DO NOT WANT
Our only wish is to see or hear that you’re happy and that you feel our love!
We too feel tears come down our faces, because we cannot make others value the time you spent with us – we do know the value you put on your grandparents – its awful, when you’re in such an unthinkable situation; and it may never be possible for some people to ever change the value they put upon parents, but the good news is, there is no way to deny that we miss the amazing laughter and smiles, the fun, the school trips and play dates among so many other things. We miss so many things – We also cannot help you with the feelings that must be inside of you. We do hope you find a person in your life that feels super safe to talk about everything, be comfortable and free to tell all of the truth. A teacher, your parents, a principle, a counselor. That there is someone to talk to where anything you say to them can be private and maybe they can help you keep your smiles, and your happy thoughts. Below is the photo taken the day Poppy and I felt that Mom changed or finalized thoughts on the future direction for your family – she went from wanting to be here for 5 years same school same home to relocating. When dad got selected to go to a different location he was to be out of the Army in a matter of weeks, by April, but rather than stay where you were settled in – they felt it best to move where you would not be able to see us. I think she saw how attached you kids were wanting Nana- I stayed with you after this because of her work schedule , and the requests to drive you to school or pick up , She saw that you asked for me right after this surgery while you were sedated. All normal based upon the events of nine years prior. It made her realize she wanted her kids to be close with her and dad and from that day on the new plan went into motion . Not to hurt you, but for her to be free of Poppy and I, to do things her own way. She and dad needed to make things work for their family . So please don’t be sad … and know they love you so much. In doing this – breaking you of dream starters, and all that was traditional with us, by doing this it would allow them to do what they as parents wanted to do – It’s truly possible for so many to love you and want you happy, yet have different ways of loving and caring, and we hope everyone can find understanding and patience to allow you both the continued relationships with all of those you love, out of the love they have for you !
It is possible that Mom and Dad will soon ( if not already ) request the Army to move all of you farther away eventually, maybe hoping Aunt Kiki is not so close, or so we are further away…. and if so you can always keep us in your heart, remember all the good, all the love, and fun. Keep those memories, and always dream. DREAM happy dreams, and good thoughts. Because no matter where you are in the world, your heart can hold on to the good things you love. So you know, We do not blame you for anything tha has happened, ever, we do not blame any of this on you at all, nothing, and you should know mom and dad are simply wanting to be living the life they want to live it. It is not up to Nana and Poppy, and we are only hoping you can all live happy.
‘Happiness’ is the dream – and the it is the ‘hope’ from all those who love you both. There is likely something you feel inside when you hear about us, a want that you cannot outwardly express, like when maybe when Aunt Kiki says they are coming to visit some day. And you suddenly wish you could too. One day you’ll hopefully get opportunities to see or make dreams come true. Until then, you have to remind yourself that no one can change what is real good and valuable from you, and no one can change some facts in life. One of those facts is that no one can really take your grandparents away from your memories and only you have the power to make your memories bring smiles to you instead of tears. There will be a day that you will find so so so many people who have shared your happy memories. You will laugh and feel good about your memories and all of your days in the Mitten! If that day cannot be today , or even tomorrow , we can hope it will be sometime in the very near future ! We do want you to know we have tried so hard to talk to, FaceTime, or visit you. Yesterday Poppy emailed mom again asking that she welcome us to come visit you. Last time she said she had to check Dad, and they then said “no”, that was end of July first week of August, thinking it was before school started and it could be so fun. We hoped that if a little more time passed, they would change their minds. So he asked again. Now we will wait and hope they will see that a visit from people you love and spent so much of your lives with, will be good for you both, and will allow you to move ahead in a positive and good way. They can have the life they choose with their kids and still let thier kids have grandparents to share in it ! They know we could and would come see your school, or take you to dinner. What ever fits in with your schedules. We could see Kiki and her family too. Over these past months we have not gone to see her either, as we would not have wanted you to think we didn’t come see you too. It would be a great thing to make it so everyone gets to have some Nana & Poppy time – and no one feels left out of time spent with grandparents!
Always remember, We love you Guillianna and Elijah
NO DISTANCE, NO TIME, NO CHANGES AS WE GROW OLDER, WILL EVER CHANGE the truth and love that lives in your heart. It cannot change THE THINGS WE GAVE OF OUR HEARTS. Nothing will alter what was SHARED WITH YOU FOR SO MANY YEARS, our love WILL EVER GO AWAY…. all of this can grow and live in all that you do, and those things can hopefully help you as you grow and change through the years.
forever and always … we are sending you hugs, kisses, courage, and wishes for happiness….
❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?