Bye bye February ….

Nana February 28, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah-

Are you getting your Leprechaun traps set or planned out?   Hard to believe it’s going to be spring soon and we still haven’t been able to speak with,  or see you two, absolutely devastating and so traumatic to you both both.    If you’ve been swayed to dislike or have been brainwashed  into the idea that life was bad in the Mitten the saddest part of your new potential ‘dislike’ for your Nana and Poppy – well, that would be 180 degrees from where you two were the day you left ?   To take on the mental anguish that would have to occur for such a drastic change is unimaginable and we are so sad if that is what has happened.    Or  if you are hiding your feelings and compensating for, bury the sorrow of missing us and your lives in he Mitten, all for acceptance … no matter how we try to imagine what has happened here , how you went from so much love for us to either never wanting to see or speak to us ?  Or wondering why we were here for grandparents day or having no answers to so many questions ….  It is all so sad and we continue  wondering what you’ve been told, and  what you have had to do each day to to be in ‘sync l’ with the idea that people you have always known loved and depended upon  are simply  disposable .     We hope March is breakthrough month for conversation and resolution that allows you both to have something many children are usually born into.    Having  love and support of family, not matter how different people are – that support that knowledge is a gift .  Usually it’s customary to believe in family , to enjoy having Grandparents .   These things , in the life of a child are a very wonderful gift.    At least in  most peoples interpretation or perception people are not to be cut out of a life and discarded as worthless.    To and to tear a child from the life they knew and loved – without having any rational, or  truthful reason, is simply the hashest and most cruel thing for us to imagine you have had to contend with and navigate daily.     When a child is fortunate to have extended family it’s  truly special.   We see that our own daughter has made decisions to leave behind her parents, her grandparents, her siblings, her neices and nephews.   She has given us all reason to worry and wonder if she understands the depth of the sorrow created in the actions to isolate herself and her children from people who have loved and supported her and her family for her entire life with us .   For all these years we have tried very diligently to show her dedication comittment and we have givien all we could possibly give to prove love for her and help her succeed in her decisions, the time afforded her to do all she has done for herself, the security of knowing you were both loved and cared for all those years , has now been manipulated into something evil and dishonest.    Poppy and I have been removed and treated by our own child as though we did something criminal .    That is reason for concern and sorrow beyond any words I could ever write.  There may never be a way to show her it change what is within her.

One thing learned over these many years is that the emotional traumas of children impact significantly the future adults that they become.    This website is designed simply to be a tool to help you as you grow and beginner to assimilate all that has transpired in your lives.  As well as a gift, the words and thoughts of your grandparents, that you may one day to know.   It is one of many facets that you will  be able to reference and it is hope that the information you find when grown will prevent you from closing yourself off to trust.   Help you in a way that was not afforded to small children who’s lives were also drastically changed when they experienced loss, or inability to have a voice, had no control of their own futures for they themselves were  put into a system in  Eastern European countries and their hearts broken can at young ages, creating huge emotional trauma that in some cases can be so very difficult to repair.   The acceptance of your parents position to change how they feel about the role we played in their lives as parents, the hope that they will one day see how much we love, how hard we tried, and what we did for all the years in your lives and in your moms life, up to the day they left the Mitten with you…. is and always has been in their power.   Life is about choices.   In research it is documented, that the choice to abandon, has been hard wired into some people, because they were abandoned.  The purpose of this love letter is to tell you, you the two of you have not ever been abandoned.   Not by us, not by your friends, cousins, aunts, uncles, great grandparents.   None of the people you love, who have shared your lives with ever chose this situation.    Ironically, as life always proves, the decisions of others, always affects many people, and the children that Nana and Poppy have always dedicated ourselves to , were deeply affected by actions and events in others lives, that chain of events, carries through and our lives all spin in directions based on the actions of others as well as ourselves.    The importance of our own decisions, our own choices, our own actions, is so very important because the influence and actions of others around us impacts even the best of intentions, the purest of hearts, and the deepest of dedication.    The foundation you build your lives on must be rock solid.   It needs integrity, courage and strength.   To keep you grounded when blindsided, when uneexpected circumstances arise, when the rug is pulled from beneath you.   Our love, our integrity and our dedication to our parents, children and grandchildren is true.  It is real, it is solid, and will not be manipulated into any fabrication less than it is.  Your parents love you deeply, so do we, so do all of the others you grew up with and trusted.   The issues you have been made to carry now, are created by others, not yourselves.    Poppy and I both hope you will always believe in love, in seeing the good, in giving, in kindness, in knowing youre both loved from here to the moon and back,

forever and for always,

The dreams for tomorrow …

Nana February 27, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

The days continue to pass and the intent is clear, the disconnect has continued and the personal feelings and adult decisions continue to impact the innocent little children and many other innocent adults of this family.  Today, as we do everyday, thoughts of love, and fun stream to mind and tears continue to stream on the face as they represent what the heart and mind cannot hold inside.   Sadness for our children as we look at the value of family which is complexity lost upon some,  others who have love for family and are hurt by those who don’t- and the cousins who deserved to know aunts and uncles , who deserved to continue a bond with each other.  The loss and number of people impacted by the decisions adults made – the fallout felt by everyone else when one lives with a mindset  “to cut people out of lives like paper snowflakes” is so enormous- that it makes it hard for anyone to comprehend.

Yet it is true.    What can one do, knowing that innocent people are hurting because of untruths or misguided representations?   Despite it all- We can believe.     The truth is so powerful while it may never be seen by some, it doesn’t make it less true.     The world is very complicated.   The problems we all face differ and it is very true that as you two grow you will see and learn so many things.  The only way to emerge through any problem you face in life is with dedication committment and hard work, passion for what you do, a belief in your self and with love in your heart, a desire to not only be happy but to try to make better the world around you – leave it just a little better in some way , than how you found it .

Nana and Poppy know as you grow each day you’ll face challenges and the effects of what has been contrived in these past months will have the potential to build within you the drive to take any sorrow or loss and turn it into a positive.    Help someone else and yourselves to realize that on this life we are all interconnected.     The actions of one person can make positive differences and to look for the good in everything.    To value relationships and understand the effects of our choices and actions.    There is one thing everyone I know says about Poppy – he is the eternal optimist,   He always has put the needs of his kids first and has always helped them.    He most certainly did not deserve what he has been forced to bear, yet he still pushes forward.   He still treats people with kindness, he still works hard at maintaining his responsibility’s and he shares a smile with all those he meets.     He has text messages saved on his phone before olde enough to spell with little emojis … and then first words all about love and fun and the good memories that seem to currently be twisted into something dishonest.    The story we hear is that you’re been unhappy – mistreated, lied to , and to be honest the actions taken are indicative of some sort of criminal behavior.   To ban people from someone’s life, sends the message that the people banned are evil, have committed something so egregious that they are not worth be present in your lives .    Neither Poppy or Nana are deserving of this and one day the manipulation of truth will unfold.   The emotional trauma that is caused between the day you left the Mitten and the day you’re able to discover for yourselves the truth, are allowed to admit and remember the  love surrounding you for so many years  and come to terms with the manner in which this “detachment process” has been handled  will likely be a very long and difficult challenge.    We will always believe in good and love, in your courage and strength and in your memories that will be fed by the images within the photos on this site and the images imprinted upon your hearts.    We love you two,  to the moon and back ,

forever and for always ,

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?

My “sob story” as it was called….

Nana February 24, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah-

I can’t t imagine anyone ever saying this is my  “sob story” – when in actuality it’s your life story from birth to ages 7 and 9 years of age!    Oh my – such a wonderful  and happy time it truly was for all of us!    These memories are not sad – if there is any impression  of a “sob story” the reality is that the observance may be by those it label these images these words these memories as such would be their own self introspection.   Maybe the idea that mom and dad could not share those memories because of work demands is their own sorrow and maybe after all these years – after missing so much time , it has caught up and the action was to force detachment and gain the attachment they wanted and missed.    That is possible and we may never know why or what triggered this, but a “sob story” it will not ever be!    The story of your lives is a wonderfully happy and love filled journey to be told it was anything else or manipulated to believe you were victims in any way , is what is truly sad.    The source of any “sorrow” is in the decisions that were made  to alienate or remove from your life all that was ever known by the twice of you – and it’s our sincere hope that all you loved and knew as home, and extended family and friends have been replaced with the continued love of parents and new adventures that will leave  your lives enriched.   Not by destroying the good memories you have had but by building upon them and allowing you to live the lives you have known.     If “my story” seems, or is interpreted as a “sob story” it’s likely that the weight of the guilt associated with knowing that these actions that have been taken , will one day result in ownership of the heartbreak that was brought upon you , us, and all those who have loved and continue to love you .     Nana and Poppy’s actions as your grandparents are and always were – pure love ❤️  for you both and we have tried  to help mom as she navigated through her own childhood into her adult years.   Without fail- we have loved her – we have done our very best to always try to  support her, and the sorrow is not in our choice to do so- it may be in her choice to negate it and “ cut out of her life” – a father who only ever was wonderful to her and the mom who she never wanted after losing her own.     The sob story may just be – that she knows that all of the family – the core people of her entire life in the Mitten, have never done her an injustice, but it seems to this date , her own personal issues prevent her from ever acknowledging anyone of us as having value in her life- she enjoys believing she has made it through all of her life all on her own – painting the image that she had no help, and the idea that she has ever depended upon anyone to help her – didn’t or doesn’t fit into the realm of her version of a  “story”.    When or if ever  adults can recognize the simple truth,  that it truly does take a village – to survive this crazy world – love of friends, teachers,  family , relatives and support from every direction,  then and only then,  will it be understood by our own daughter that there is no need to name call, no need to falsely accuse, no need to isolate, and treat others with malice and hopefully one day acknowledge and actually understand that love is not something to toss aside, that we as parents…  are in fact two people who did the very best they possibly could to protect, preserve, provide and help grow intellectually and emotionally all six of their children and all of their grandchildren to date.     At present  – there are those who look to find the hate,  the discord, the sorrow, in things —— unlike those who choose to see love ❤️     Any sorrow, negativity or falsehood that could ever be ingrained since leaving the Mitten, into two innocent people,  is not my “sob story” it is the sad and heartbreaking story that hurts the innocent, and it is fabricated by others who chose to create this unthinkable situation to mask their own parental insecurity .   Painting the image you were victims during your Mitten years , is not at all a truth, however, becoming the victim of loss of control, loss of memories and familial support, loss of relationships, learning how to “cut people” you loved deeply “out of your lives”  is a role you each have fallen into by the actions of others , and THAT is the sorrow,  that  has become Poppy and Nana’s reality – as well as yours.  Sob story?  Wow,   Pretty sure that is a very callous term and derogatory way to look at what it is to make  an innocent child a victim, of loss and separation.     The other day Poppy and Nana were thinking – about the way you’d likely feel next time we see you … what would you feel if we were to visit now?    In recent months –  we have respected the demand to not send cards to you , not send gifts, and when we asked to come see you , we were denied-  but if we had come , or came to visit other family near by that you’re also forbidden to see- , and saw your Nana and Poppy, would you  be afraid of disappointing your own parents when you truly just wanted to run and hug your grandparents?   Oh my,  the mental anguish that would be present in that moment.   Oh my goodness,  the anguish that will be present over the many years to come if you’re  left wondering , or allowed to believe your Poppy and Nana are something harmful, that we are somehow people who didn’t love, who didn’t give all they could  to their children and to their grandchildren?     To think your own parents would make their children actually believe that they either endured something bad, or that they were so insignificant that they were forgotten, isn’t that the most sorrowful scenario  ?   There is not resolution for you to have peace in your futures, if honesty and integrity are  lacking, or if some sort of personal anguish of others, is now being spread to the innocent.   So for today all we can do, all we can hope is that you will remain strong, have faith in your truths and your real memories of our actions and of all our time in the Mitten – if they can be preserved either within you or by way of these images, they will one day serve you well and one day those who have controlled thoughts, your hearts –   will free them,  And you will  feel the love of all your family – know and understand  thatclove if parents and family is a good and wonderful thing for each of you .  The actions of people – show more about a person’s character than anything I could ever say.     In everything we have ever done with regard to our children and grandchildren we have done so with the purest form of love – ALWAYS and as to the two of you  in our lives , we have always wanted to help our daughter, and to help you both,  please know- these photos , these memories – are not a “sob story”-  it is a beautiful love that has seemingly been turned into something untrue.  The character of a man like your Poppy cannot be altered by words –   His character is shown in his actions.  One day you’ll see all of the facts , gain your own perspective and in that you will find that love, dedication and kindness define your story – and our story is a love story , what others have chosen to do with our love is their story – and they Amy call it what they will.    It won’t ever change our “love you to the moon and back, love story”.

We love you both to the moon and back

forever and for always

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy ❤️?

Great Grandmothers …

Nana February 23, 2019 0Comments

Dear Guillianna and Elijah –

With Spring approaching there are so many birthdays coming – aside from the one in your household there is Great Grandma’s Sharyn now in her 80’s and great Grandma Sally entering her 90th year – last year neither of you were able to call or send wishes – we hope that now you’ll be given that opportunity for these people have been so good to both of you and you spent all your lives growing up around them –  we sent an invitation and we will hope they will see this invite and reach out to say let’s talk – let’s see how we can make this situation better…. for these matriarchal people have so much love for you both and have given so much of themselves , shared so much , taught so much, through the years – they  have value beyond measure  -and are the people who gave Poppy and I our opportunity to live life – if not for them, you and your brother would not have been here .    Family does have value and does matter – each day that passes where you have been disconnected from all you had ever known and your memories of seeing them or playing with them, laughing with them, and feeling their love fade – please know they never stopped loving , they never stopped having  hope- and they do know you have no other options – they will always have the amazing fun and happy memories  just like you two.   The love and laughter that fills their hearts when they see photos and think of the many wonderful moments we all shared.

The love they each have for their children – the spouses of their children,  their grandchildren and their great grandchildren – is Simply beyond words – the hope they feel in their hearts so beyond measure –    We hope you will see them again soon.  A visit to the Mitten to your family and all of your friends would bring so much happiness to everyone !    We can always hope that is for sure.

Love to you both from here to the moon and back,

forever and for always –

XOXOXOXOXOXO

❤️Nana and Poppy❤️?